What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arkansas
My wife and I have been on the rocks for about a year. We've been married for 10 years and moved to Arkansas about a year and a half ago after I got out of the Navy. We have 2 kids (one adopted after she became pregnant while we were separated, although I love him as much as my biological daughter). We bought a house when we moved here. She is a SAHM, worked temporarily while we were separated, but essentially hasn't worked much. Our son will start kindergarten next year.
If we were to divorce, I'm basically willing to give her about 90 percent of the money we have saved, let her have anything in the house she wants (within reason, obviously my clothes, watches, etc. are not in bounds), continue to pay on her new car, medical, etc. I suspect she would move back to MD (where we are both from) and of course take the kids with her. I'd be fine with that, so to speak, but I would basically have to quit my job and find something in MD, which might not be nearly as good. I currently make around 90K, but if I moved, I suspect I wouldn't find a job that pays as well. I know child support is a given, but would alimony be an issue? If so, would the fact that I'm willing to pay for the other things (car, med, etc.) mitigate the amount. I honestly just can't stand to look at her any more. She's a great mom, but I think she just might be spiteful, and if that happened, I would not want to "play nice".
Is there any advice you guys can give?
My wife and I have been on the rocks for about a year. We've been married for 10 years and moved to Arkansas about a year and a half ago after I got out of the Navy. We have 2 kids (one adopted after she became pregnant while we were separated, although I love him as much as my biological daughter). We bought a house when we moved here. She is a SAHM, worked temporarily while we were separated, but essentially hasn't worked much. Our son will start kindergarten next year.
If we were to divorce, I'm basically willing to give her about 90 percent of the money we have saved, let her have anything in the house she wants (within reason, obviously my clothes, watches, etc. are not in bounds), continue to pay on her new car, medical, etc. I suspect she would move back to MD (where we are both from) and of course take the kids with her. I'd be fine with that, so to speak, but I would basically have to quit my job and find something in MD, which might not be nearly as good. I currently make around 90K, but if I moved, I suspect I wouldn't find a job that pays as well. I know child support is a given, but would alimony be an issue? If so, would the fact that I'm willing to pay for the other things (car, med, etc.) mitigate the amount. I honestly just can't stand to look at her any more. She's a great mom, but I think she just might be spiteful, and if that happened, I would not want to "play nice".
Is there any advice you guys can give?