Need some advice desperately

[RCiancia]

What is the name of your state? NEW YORK

You are all very good people here.. I need your advice one more time.

I started my divorce action in April of 2003.. in July of 2003 I was ordered via Motion to pay all household bill, school tuitions, everything.. my ex pays nothing.. I could not and can still not afford to pay all these and support myself. I dip into saving each month, while my ex has increased her savings account by 7000 ( I found this during the EBT) Anyway, here it is Mid Feb and I am not one step closer to settleing.. I have paid my lawyer 10K now and have NOTHING to show for it... my next court date is Feb 25.. and my lawyer says he thinks a proposal is coming.. I think he is milking me.. He never warned me about things in the beginning, like income tax stuff. among others.. I cannot fire him now.. I dont have enough money for a new retainer...

How do I handle this lawyer.. I have not been stern with him , YET.. but am very close.. I want this case settled.. 3 kids, all over 14 years old live with their mother.. no disputes.. very simple case, so simple a Judge wouldnt let it go to trial.. waste of his time.. Please send me your thoughts... thanks

[RCiancia]

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[HomeGuru]

Originally posted by RCiancia
I can tell by 18 people reading this ,and NONE replying, that this normal behavior for a Lawyer.... run up the bill and do as little as possible.

Very sad

**A: and I can tell that you are an idiot being that out of 21 views, only one reader was an attorney. And with that ignorant attitude, you can pay another $10K for an attorney.

You wouldn't have liked my answer anyway

[RCiancia]

Please share your answer with me.... and I am not being ignorant... put yourself in my shoes...


Its easy to lose faith.

How do I handle this lawyer.. I have not been stern with him , YET.. but am very close.. I want this case settled.. 3 kids, all over 14 years old live with their mother.. no disputes.. very simple case, so simple a Judge wouldnt let it go to trial.. waste of his time..

And how do you know a Judge would not let this go to trial? Are you an attorney? Are you a Judge? Do you have a crystal ball?

Simply put, it is your responsibility to make sure any employee does what you want, including an attorney. If you thought during this process that your attorney was not servicing your needs then it was up to you to either fire him or speak with him about your concerns.

At this point you have only two options: Have a come to jesus meeting and detail your concerns or, fire him and handle the case yourself.

Either way, YOU need to take responsibility. Because it sounds to me like the other side is 'milking you' not your attorney. And if this is the case, then this 'case' is a little more complicated than you think. No issues or not.

[RCiancia]

hexeliebe

I sincerely thank you for your candid and honest reply. You were able to affirm what I though was wrong, which is me. The common citizen doesnt know anything about how this works until you go thru it.. I found myself in that boat.. But I cant wait for someone to do something I want, without talking to them.. so it is me....

The otherside is milking it.. for sure.. and I just scheduled a come to jesus meeting with my lawyer to set it straight.


I thank you for your interest and time.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

[RCiancia]

As an update, I called my attorney today and set things straight, I used your method of how to talk to an employee that isnt performing well. Anyway, I expressed my disappointment and concerns and told him what I need him to do for me, to make me happy. We came to an understanding and I will have a trial date within the next 2 weeks.. Squeaky wheel get the oil my friends... I suspect I will get alot more respect now... It works.. GREAT ADVICE>>>>

LESSON LEARNED - and Thanks Again to you all..

That's great news and something I hope you'll carry with you from this point forward.

Now, here's something you can do for ME!

I can tell by 18 people reading this ,and NONE replying, that this normal behavior for a Lawyer.... run up the bill and do as little as possible.

Remember that comment? I think the attorneys here who not only donate their time and expertise to help people for absolutely no remuneration deserve an apology.

What do you think?

[RCiancia]

I am in full agreement that I am responsible to provide a full apology to every person that donates their time on this web site.. and I will go on public records as saying that I was an "Ignorant Client" in that statement I made..

Sincere thanks to ALL the attorneys that volunteer their time.. You all made my life much better today... Thanks

P.S. I removed the offending comment from the original post.