poor man in virginia,part two.

[guitareagle]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia. I need help/advice on how to present my case/story on a upcoming mediation hearing I've got on 4-28-09. please read my other thread so you can be familiar with my case. thank you for any help. My wife wants money and will not talk at all, I am not going to agree to pay her anything at all. In my part of the state they only hold these type of civil cases on a friday, I went yesterday just to observe, and the cases that I saw realy did not pertain to my situation. My court hearing is on 5-01-09 and I can't afford a attorney, she is going to be represented by legal aide a free service for poor people in my state, they can not represent me because of conflict of interest, so any help for me to get ready would be greatly appreciated.... thanks, guitareagle

[mmmagique]

Originally Posted by guitareagle

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia. I need help/advice on how to present my case/story on a upcoming mediation hearing I've got on 4-28-09. please read my other thread so you can be familiar with my case. thank you for any help. My wife wants money and will not talk at all, I am not going to agree to pay her anything at all. In my part of the state they only hold these type of civil cases on a friday, I went yesterday just to observe, and the cases that I saw realy did not pertain to my situation. My court hearing is on 5-01-09 and I can't afford a attorney, she is going to be represented by legal aide a free service for poor people in my state, they can not represent me because of conflict of interest, so any help for me to get ready would be greatly appreciated.... thanks, guitareagle

Take a deep breath. Calm yourself. And tell your side of the story with as little drama as possible.
It's ok to show some emotion, as long as you keep it in check.
Make a list (ordered) of all of the important (relevant) facts you intend to show, and keep it with you, so when you are called upon to testify, you can keep your mind on what it is you need to say, and not how you feel.
It will work out in the end.
(I also have prayed before a similar type situation that the judge, and others involved would be led to see the truth of the matter, and that I would be able to present my side as well as I am able.
It did help me. I felt calm and confident, and absolutely prevailed. I wouldn't be surprised at all if you do as well.)

[guitareagle]

Thank you.

[guitareagle]

Originally Posted by mmmagique

Take a deep breath. Calm yourself. And tell your side of the story with as little drama as possible.
It's ok to show some emotion, as long as you keep it in check.
Make a list (ordered) of all of the important (relevant) facts you intend to show, and keep it with you, so when you are called upon to testify, you can keep your mind on what it is you need to say, and not how you feel.
It will work out in the end.
(I also have prayed before a similar type situation that the judge, and others involved would be led to see the truth of the matter, and that I would be able to present my side as well as I am able.
It did help me. I felt calm and confident, and absolutely prevailed. I wouldn't be surprised at all if you do as well.)

Well I just got back from the mediation with me and my soon 2 b x and she is lying about so much stuf i'm still realing from it all, needless to say we did not come to an agreement, she wants money and I don't have it so we go before the judge friday and I GOT A feeling that she will be awarded some amount of money, even though we were only married for six months. She told this mediator guy that I had her locked in a room and made her not see her son and forced her to stop her child support payments she was getting from him, i'ts unreal all of the crap this lady is saying just to try and get money. I NEED A LAWYER BUT I'M STONE COLD BROKE, any suggestions as to how to present my case this friday would be greatly appreciated. I am getting a letter from my sons school saying she voulenteered as a room mother and attended various functions at his school, but will a Judge even let me enter anything like that ? what am I allowed to bring up? again it is this friday 5-01-09 thank you guitareagle.

[mmmagique]

Have you checked into legal aid? (or are you the one whose wife is utilizing legal aid, and that would be a conflict of interest?...I can't remember.)

If that's the case call your local bar association and talk to them. Perhaps they can find someone who can help you.

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Is she asking for spousal support on a six-month marriage?

[guitareagle]

Originally Posted by mmmagique

Have you checked into legal aid? (or are you the one whose wife is utilizing legal aid, and that would be a conflict of interest?...I can't remember.)

If that's the case call your local bar association and talk to them. Perhaps they can find someone who can help you.

Yes I am the one, but I haven't called the local bar association, although it is most likely to late but i'll try that, today in the mediation the mediator asked her would she expect to get alimony from me untill she gets her disability, which she has been trying since 2003m so I hope she gets it soon.....anyway thanks**************guitareagle

[guitareagle]

Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr

Is she asking for spousal support on a six-month marriage?

yes she is, and from the feeling I got from the mediation meeting or whatever it's called, she is going to get something, and I honestly don't think I should have to pay her anything, but i'll see this friday...... guitareagle