What is the name of your state?I live in Vermont, as does my ex wife. Right now I have to pay my ex almost half my salary in spousal maintenance because she claimed to not have worked during our 20 year marriage, which was not true. She always had a part-time job, but the judge believed everything she said and my lawyer was useless. Near the end of our marriage she worked under the table, and only claimed half of the income on the tax returns and therefore only claimed to make half of what she actually makes when we went to court. She also got the house and everything in it, supposedly because we still had a 16 year child at home. Now, she has a boyfriend whom I hear is living with her. I want to try to prove this in court so the alimony can be dropped, but I do not know what methods will hold up in court. I don't have a lawyer now because I can not afford one, as I still owe the one I used previously lots of money. Would video taping the guy going in at night and leaving every mornig for a week be enough proof? Or is there something else the court would need as proof. Obviously my kids won't testify, and I don't want to ask them to do that anyway. I just feel like it's not fair that I am here struggling to make ends meet week to week and she's sitting pretty with her boyfriend enjoying the house I bought, with all the furniture I paid for, and the nice garage I built and the pool I paid for! Also, we were married 20 years but she got the spousal maintenance for 15!!!!!! How is that fair?? We were both 42 at the time, so we both have time to start over so why so long with the alimony?? So, again what proof do I need in court to prove cohabitation? If anyone knows, I would greatly appreciate the help.