Senior Life Is Not Dull!

[notnow9]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Calif.
I'm age 61. Married 23 years. Wife (age 62) has threatened me that she will "be gone" if I start communicating with members of my family again. Have had very little contact with them for 9 years, primarily due to her dislike for several family members. She wants to control all aspects of my life.


Added Information
Part of the threat is that I will have to pay support to her, along with car (but make me pay the balance off), and savings. Punitive but deserved in her view,
since she helped get me through some difficult times with health and job. I am now on permanent disability (social security). Will not go back to work.

What kind of spousal support should I expect to pay her if she leaves?

[xylene]

What your wife believes about what you owe her has little bearing on what she is entitled to.

The basics - she is entitled to 1/2 the marital assets and half the marital liabilities.

Support will depend on more information than you have described.

The fact that she supported YOU while you were getting disability does not mean you owe her... Indeed in terms of support it is evidence that she is doing just fine on her own.

You need to talk to a lawyer if you believe your wife is about to or is commencing divorce proceedings.

You need to talk to a counselor - for yourself NO MATTER WHAT and with your wife, BUT ONLY IF she is serious about reconciliation and is willing to recind her threat of divorce over your family.

That is controlling and wrong.

Another point - if your wife's controlling behavior continues unabated, - whatever comes of the divorce threat from her YOU should consider divorcing her.

It is sad to say, but a good offense may be a good defense, if you feel divorce is inevitable.

[notnow9]

Thank you for the comments.

My head is still experiencing overload from hearing the sincere nature of my wife's threat this morning. As much as it pains me to acknowledge, her claims to being a "no matter what" person just got blown away.

Further questions:
We have no debt except a car loan. Lease an apartment. Only other liquid asset is an account that can be accessed by either one of us. Is there any legal prohibition of making a move to protect myself, withdrawing 50% and moving it to a new account in my name? If I don't, my wife has control of all funds.

Yes I will be finding a counselor. Will have to be e-mail or chat, gratis. Not given any opportunity to go out on my own. No opportunity for personal interaction. Can't hire a lawyer for direct advice because she watches ALL credit cards and she writes all checks.

This is real weird when I look at the things I am writing about. There are more strange details to the story that are not appropriate for a forum. I will definitely be looking for help for myself as soon as this message is sent.

[Country Living]

Originally Posted by notnow9

What kind of spousal support should I expect to pay her if she leaves?

I was expecting your question to be "what kind of spousal support should she expect to pay you?"