She wants everything

[JariLynn]

What is the name of your state? IL

I need help. My very close friend has lived with a woman
for 26 years. They have 5 children together all who are
now over the age of 18. The woman met a man on the
internet and left this family. They did not know where she
was. Then she finally told them and now that the man has
decided to go on with his life after a year of waiting she
has decided that she wants everything. She came to his
home and took all the electronics,Computers, widescreens,
bed sets etc**************.. Now she wants him for alimony. She
says that she deserves this but can work. What are his
rights? I really need to help him. Thank You!

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by JariLynn

What is the name of your state? IL

I need help. My very close friend has lived with a woman
for 26 years. They have 5 children together all who are
now over the age of 18. The woman met a man on the
internet and left this family. They did not know where she
was. Then she finally told them and now that the man has
decided to go on with his life after a year of waiting she
has decided that she wants everything. She came to his
home and took all the electronics,Computers, widescreens,
bed sets etc**************.. Now she wants him for alimony. She
says that she deserves this but can work. What are his
rights? I really need to help him. Thank You!

Well, I really feel awfully bad to break this news to you, but unfortunately your friend has been born a man and has no rights in domestic issues.

The good news is that he could have a sex change (very common these days) and improve his chances for justice.

[JariLynn]

This is serious dude I need to know if she can take everything away from him even though they were never married and would he have to pay support to a woman that can work herself.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by JariLynn

What is the name of your state? IL

I need help. My very close friend has lived with a woman
for 26 years. They have 5 children together all who are
now over the age of 18. The woman met a man on the
internet and left this family. They did not know where she
was. Then she finally told them and now that the man has
decided to go on with his life after a year of waiting she
has decided that she wants everything. She came to his
home and took all the electronics,Computers, widescreens,
bed sets etc**************.. Now she wants him for alimony. She
says that she deserves this but can work. What are his
rights? I really need to help him. Thank You!

She doesn't qualify for alimony. She and he were NOT married. It doesn't matter how long they dated, she was not his spouse and she needs to get a job. Why did he let her take all the electronics and such? Can either one of them prove who purchased them?

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by JariLynn

I need help. ...
My very close friend ...
I really need to help him.

I can never understand the folks who get THAT involved in their friends' really personal business. But that's just me.

[nextwife]

He needs to sue her for return of everything she did not buy, and a split of what they bought jointly. As stated, if they never married, she's not his spouse, and not entitled to alimony or any of his retirement, nor is he entitled to any of HER retirement, nor any alimony from HER..

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by JariLynn

What is the name of your state? IL

I need help. My very close friend has lived with a woman
for 26 years. They have 5 children together all who are
now over the age of 18. The woman met a man on the
internet and left this family. They did not know where she
was. Then she finally told them and now that the man has
decided to go on with his life after a year of waiting she
has decided that she wants everything. She came to his
home and took all the electronics,Computers, widescreens,
bed sets etc**************.. Now she wants him for alimony. She
says that she deserves this but can work. What are his
rights? I really need to help him. Thank You!

I think that he should consult an attorney. I agree with the others that alimony shouldn't be possible, however I do know of a similar case where it was. (admittedly quite a few years ago, but it was in IL).

Therefore he should consult with a local attorney to make sure that he has no threat there.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

I think that he should consult an attorney. I agree with the others that alimony shouldn't be possible, however I do know of a similar case where it was. (admittedly quite a few years ago, but it was in IL).

Therefore he should consult with a local attorney to make sure that he has no threat there.

Being in IL is very important. In some states, there is a possibility the long term relationship created a common law marriage prior to that state's dissolution. However, it's REALLY unlikely that THIS couple began their relationship before the state law changed:

The Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act (750 ILCS 5/214) states that common law marriages contracted in Illinois after June 30, 1905 are invalid.