Sousal support

[Shel77]

LOL, admit that I obviously spelled it wrong but I guess spell check changed it to that. Very funny. lol

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by Shel77

LOL, admit that I obviously spelled it wrong but I guess spell check changed it to that. Very funny. lol

Actually, your entire post was grammatically horrendous. The college should give you your money back.

[ablessin]

Originally Posted by Shel77

You say CHOOSE to not work during the marriage this woman has kids and a home you don't consider keeping their home and caring for their children work, I am a SAHM and if my husband and I ever divorced I would expect a certain amount of spousal support. I went to collage and could have done allot carrier wise but chose not to pay someone else to care for our son and home while I was off working. In most cases such as ours we both decided that I would stay home. So lets say the couple has no real assets they rent their home and have little savings the husband makes 50k and the wife stays at home with their three children, they get a divorce what is she suppose to do move into a shack and try and live with her three children off the child support with depending on the judge and the state could be very minimal? She has invested her life in this family no the husband moves on still gets to live in a nice home and not have to deal with the kids but EOW and she lives in squallier because you think spousal support is a load of crap. I would only expect a month our two of spousal and CS until he is 18 but we have allot to split 50/50 and I could easily find work and only have 1 child but their are allot of people out there that have different situations, that’s why the court decide and it is not automatic most of the time you must be married long term as well. Anyway I get off my soap box now that just really ticked me off, Sorry.

You said it, you CHOSE not to work, when your kids are school aged, there is NO reason for a mom to be stay at home************** Your kids don't NEED you at home while they're off at school - - -there are ton's of part time jobs out there! Even part time at schools so you're off during the summer months when they are too!!! wow- imagine that!
There are MILLIONS of moms who WORK and KEEP HOUSE! I do it!!!!!!!!!!! Is it hard, yes..... BUT I like having a life outside of the home, too. And my son knows that and he is okay that I don't sit home and wait for him to get off the bus. Hell, my mother ran an in-home day care -so SHE worked AND she was home when I got home from school! And I had other kids to play with!

Wow - - there are TONS of options and women these days NEED to look out for themselves LONG TERM . . . . not rely on some man to support you.
I'd also hate to see your financial situation when it's retirement time, since the wife will have no pension to draw on. Gonna be slim pickins.

[mom6stepmom2]

Originally Posted by ablessin

You said it, you CHOSE not to work, when your kids are school aged, there is NO reason for a mom to be stay at home************** Your kids don't NEED you at home while they're off at school - - -there are ton's of part time jobs out there! Even part time at schools so you're off during the summer months when they are too!!! wow- imagine that!
There are MILLIONS of moms who WORK and KEEP HOUSE! I do it!!!!!!!!!!! Is it hard, yes..... BUT I like having a life outside of the home, too. And my son knows that and he is okay that I don't sit home and wait for him to get off the bus. Hell, my mother ran an in-home day care -so SHE worked AND she was home when I got home from school! And I had other kids to play with!

Wow - - there are TONS of options and women these days NEED to look out for themselves LONG TERM . . . . not rely on some man to support you.
I'd also hate to see your financial situation when it's retirement time, since the wife will have no pension to draw on. Gonna be slim pickins.

Yes, it's a personal choice to be a stay at home mom. I remain a SAHM for my 1 year old and my 2 year old. My 2 year old has Down Syndrome and I have no desire to allow someone else spend their days with my two little ones when I can be there for them. My youngest of the 4 children with my ex started school after my 2 year old was born.

As to women looking out for themselves? I have a degree I obtained prior to marrying my ex. I may very well go back to that profession after the two little ones are older.

My spousal support has to do with a multiple times over cheating spouse who used his IRA (1/2 of which was mine by law) to fund his little romps with his girls. One woman, the one he left me for, used her credit card to pay for all their fun and games. Ex would then take early withdrawal to pay off her credit card. That way wife would never find out. Right? He never guestioned spousal support at the time of divorce. Felt quilty when everything came to light I think. My having gotten remarried did not end his obligation to me.

[ablessin]

Originally Posted by mom6stepmom2

Yes, it's a personal choice to be a stay at home mom. I remain a SAHM for my 1 year old and my 2 year old. My 2 year old has Down Syndrome and I have no desire to allow someone else spend their days with my two little ones when I can be there for them. My youngest of the 4 children with my ex started school after my 2 year old was born.

As to women looking out for themselves? I have a degree I obtained prior to marrying my ex. I may very well go back to that profession after the two little ones are older.

My spousal support has to do with a multiple times over cheating spouse who used his IRA (1/2 of which was mine by law) to fund his little romps with his girls. One woman, the one he left me for, used her credit card to pay for all their fun and games. Ex would then take early withdrawal to pay off her credit card. That way wife would never find out. Right? He never guestioned spousal support at the time of divorce. Felt quilty when everything came to light I think. My having gotten remarried did not end his obligation to me.

His CS obligation should not end when you re-married that was not at all what I was saying and if it did come accross like that I am sorry.
I was meaning alimony. I don't agree with alimony. I guess it's ok for a short time - maybe 6 months, but after that a woman should not rely on a man for financial support anymore.
I never asked my ex husband for a cent when we split up. Mostly because I didn't want his money. It was enough to be separated and not feel second to the rest of the world anymore. His friends always came first, and I got tired of it, so I told him one day, I am not happy so I am planning to move. That was it, no discussion, he didn't try to get me to stay, so to me that spoke volumes.

[cyana24]

Ablessin

Your opinions concerning alimony are irrelevant and do not constitute either legal advice or a valid legal argument. Legally, he owes the OP and that's all that matters, period. End of discussion.