starling99
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Arizona
My husband and I have been married over 23 years, 4 kids (22, 20, 19, 17). I found him involved ANOTHER affair last fall and nagged him to either stop the affair or move out. Finally on May 1st he moved out. He says he wants a divorce, I say fine. He doesn't want to pay for lawyers and wants to go to mediation. He makes $110K per year as an engineer. I quit college with one year remaining towards a BS in education so he could finish his masters degree. I never returned due to the instability in his career (fired/laid off MANY times). I worked both fulltime/parttime throughout our marriage making little more than minimum wage. I am planning on returning to college in the fall to complete my bachelors degree. He has a 401K worth $300K and social security. Otherwise the only other "investment" is about $25K in savings and $250K equity in our home. From what I understand I will likely be awarded half of his SS and 401K as well as 12 to 17 years spousal support (I am 48 years old, he is 50). My biggest concern is that I get awarded enough spousal support to make the house payments and support 4 kids, all of whom will be in college. He has already said that he WILL NOT help the kids pay for college. He says that once they are 18 he has no "legal" obligation to them (no "father of the year" award for him!). What will my spousal support payments likely be and for how long, given the above information? THANKS
My husband and I have been married over 23 years, 4 kids (22, 20, 19, 17). I found him involved ANOTHER affair last fall and nagged him to either stop the affair or move out. Finally on May 1st he moved out. He says he wants a divorce, I say fine. He doesn't want to pay for lawyers and wants to go to mediation. He makes $110K per year as an engineer. I quit college with one year remaining towards a BS in education so he could finish his masters degree. I never returned due to the instability in his career (fired/laid off MANY times). I worked both fulltime/parttime throughout our marriage making little more than minimum wage. I am planning on returning to college in the fall to complete my bachelors degree. He has a 401K worth $300K and social security. Otherwise the only other "investment" is about $25K in savings and $250K equity in our home. From what I understand I will likely be awarded half of his SS and 401K as well as 12 to 17 years spousal support (I am 48 years old, he is 50). My biggest concern is that I get awarded enough spousal support to make the house payments and support 4 kids, all of whom will be in college. He has already said that he WILL NOT help the kids pay for college. He says that once they are 18 he has no "legal" obligation to them (no "father of the year" award for him!). What will my spousal support payments likely be and for how long, given the above information? THANKS