What is the name of your state? Oregon
My fiance divorced his wife of 17 years and is paying child & spousal support for 11 years since the divorce has been official. His ex has custody of the 2 children since she was a stay-at-home mother and did not have a job while married, despite my fiance's desires to have the children with him. I am concerned that his ex is going to demand lifetime spousal support after the 11 years are up and that she might actually get it since she has poor health (has MS). She just quit her part-time job and is not actively searching for another job. She has not tried to take any classes or make herself more marketable, and is living in such a way that make her MS symptoms more severe (i.e., eating fast food--she used to be on a non-fat diet that dramatically helped to alieviate MS symptoms). My fiance has been very generous with her throughout the divorce process (i.e., allowed her to keep the house, voluntarily increased child support) but I don't want to see him stuck paying spousal support for the rest of his life when his ex is not being responsible for her own health, finances, etc. Since I think that the courts will probably sympathize with her and agree to lifetime support, what are some protective measures my fiance can take to show the courts that she could have become more self-supportive and is somewhat responsible for her health? My fiance is attempting to keep a log of events (i.e., jots down if he finds out his ex is eating fast food). Any suggestions?
My fiance divorced his wife of 17 years and is paying child & spousal support for 11 years since the divorce has been official. His ex has custody of the 2 children since she was a stay-at-home mother and did not have a job while married, despite my fiance's desires to have the children with him. I am concerned that his ex is going to demand lifetime spousal support after the 11 years are up and that she might actually get it since she has poor health (has MS). She just quit her part-time job and is not actively searching for another job. She has not tried to take any classes or make herself more marketable, and is living in such a way that make her MS symptoms more severe (i.e., eating fast food--she used to be on a non-fat diet that dramatically helped to alieviate MS symptoms). My fiance has been very generous with her throughout the divorce process (i.e., allowed her to keep the house, voluntarily increased child support) but I don't want to see him stuck paying spousal support for the rest of his life when his ex is not being responsible for her own health, finances, etc. Since I think that the courts will probably sympathize with her and agree to lifetime support, what are some protective measures my fiance can take to show the courts that she could have become more self-supportive and is somewhat responsible for her health? My fiance is attempting to keep a log of events (i.e., jots down if he finds out his ex is eating fast food). Any suggestions?