That's easier said sometimes than done. My wife physically and mentally abused me for years upon years. In the last five years, she had been telling everyone that she was getting beat.
YOu are right. Most abused spouses do not turn in their abusers... today women are more likely to do so than in the past. But the report rate is still low. And its even lower for men who are abused by thier wives.
I you did not call the police than there is thing that the courts can do about it.
Were you even injured enough to go to the emergency room for it? In most places they are required by law to call the police. And in some places, like here in NM, once the police are called it's up the police and the DA to decide to prosecute. The injured spouse has not choice in the matter.
Yes, I wish I would have reported her a long time ago. But sometimes, a manipulating spouse can seriously change the way you think about doing things. I feel stupid, but she did.
That part of your post shows the problem... you are blaming her for being manipulative for why you did not report. Instead the full responsiblity is on you... on you for allowing it, on you for staying there, and on you for not reporting it.
Abuse can only happen if the abused sit there and take it. And why does the abused site there and take it? Ask yourself what you got out of it..... maybe the power of being the victim?
I was in an abusive relationship for a long time.... I stopped blaming him for my putting up with it a long time ago... until you take the responsibility for the fact that you were part of the abuse, you will continue in the abuse cycle... that's why she still keeps getting to you.
mull that over for a while.
