There must be something I can do...

[valkyrie_kate]

What is the name of your state? Arizona // Mojave County

My mother divorced my father in 1999 due to he was verbally abusive with drug problems and amongst several other issues. The battle has been on going for several years but eventually the storm calmed. They aren't as decent as they could be to each other but it's become liveable. My mother has always been the type to be too trusting and easily influenced. She is naive in a way that always gets her hurt. She ended up having to claim bankruptcy shortly after the divorce and she really hasn't had much money but to make ends meat.

She met a man about 4 years ago named "Bob". He wined and dined her, and treated her like the princess she deserved to be treated. They courted for a little under a year and then she decided we (I was still living at home at the time) were going to be moving in with him into his home here in our town. At first he seemed like a nice guy, but shortly there after, there was something about him I just didn't like and couldn't quite place. I tried to brush off the feelings due to how happy my mother seemed. The relationship with he and I was always rocky due to this, but my mother and he had a good life together. They married about 2 or so years after they met, and we ended up moving into a home they were able to buy about 2 years ago. The home was put into my mother's name. Most of the bills were co-signed or in my mother's name. This was (according to "Bob") so that if they ever did split up or divorce, etc, then "she would be able to have everything". They have bought several cars over the years, a new Harley Davidson, and several other toys that make life enjoyable. Things seemed ok and over the past year of 2006 and 2007 I ended up being cooperable with him and his decisions about the household and what they wanted out of their lives.

I ended up moving out on my own the beginning of this year into my first apartment. I was living with them in their new home from about August 2006 to February 2007. One of my "conditions" of living there was that I was to give every half of my paycheck (which was about 300$ on average) in cash to "Bob" for him to "save" for me when I moved out. Then I would be able to have a nice one lump sum for fees to move in and maybe afford some nice furniture. You can do the math, it's about 2,100$.

Now the week I moved out, "Bob" was supposedly away on business in a neighboring city, and his transmission on the brand new truck my mom and he just purchased so he would not be able to make it home that week to get my money out of the bank to give to me. I even offered to loan him the first 1000$ to get the truck fixed if he would pay me back.

I found out a week later that my mother came home to everything besides a few select pieces of furniture in their home, GONE. There was a note left by "Bob", stating "I'm sorry I had to leave, I'll explain later, don't tell anyone". She has now found out over the past month or so that everything has been a lie.

"Bob" has had approximately 7 wives, all which were older then him, that he has also done this too. He swoons these women, wines and dines them, and then takes their money and runs. My mother's mortgages, auto bills, etx, for the past 7 MONTHS. Had not been paid. Granted, she was wrong to let him handle all of their affairs, but many typical marraiges do this. Granted, she should have questioned him more, but shouldn't you be able to trust someone whom you've been married to for over 2 years? My mother is now in over HUNDREDS of THOUSANDS of Dollars in debt to several collection agencies, and it is all because of HIM. He even somehow went to the Auto Company to get the new truck put in his name for himself to keep.

My mother is now living with my Grandparents (her parents) here in town. She is trying to sell the lovely house they bought together for less then HALF of what it is worth so she can hopefully get out from underneath the forclosure. "Bob" is now living with some woman in town whom has a 3 year old daughter. He has his own detailing business that he uses my mother's brand new truck to drive his equipment around in. I never received the two-thousand dollars I had given him over the time frame, and I think it's safe to say that he's ripped the past several years out of mine and my mother's life.

Now MY POINT:

There has to be something that we can do about this. If not, he's going to continue to do this the rest of his life, taking advantage of women, taking along their lives and HEARTS with him. My mother has NO MONEY. Let alone can she afford a lawyer to help beat this guy. ANY ADVICE? If so, you can POST here or even email me at [email]angel_myst22@yahoo.com[/email], this is my personal email.

This is a cry for help, Please, anything offered would be helpful.

[Ohiogal]

Actually it is all because of her decisions. SHE chose to have everything put in her name and NOT keep track of payments. She chose not to be responsible with her credit. Granted what Bob did was not nice HOWEVER your mother is not an innocent victim. Your mother just learned a hard lesson.

And you were just as bad giving him half your paycheck. If the truck was brand new it would have been under warranty and he could have gotten it fixed for nothing. Things in your post do not add up.
She is going to have to come up with the money for a divorce attorney as she most probably won't qualify for legal aid. Is she working? If not then it is definitely time for her to get a job. If she can't then she will want to file pro se.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by valkyrie_kate

What is the name of your state? Arizona // Mojave County

My mother divorced my father in 1999 due to he was verbally abusive with drug problems and amongst several other issues. The battle has been on going for several years but eventually the storm calmed. They aren't as decent as they could be to each other but it's become liveable. My mother has always been the type to be too trusting and easily influenced. She is naive in a way that always gets her hurt. She ended up having to claim bankruptcy shortly after the divorce and she really hasn't had much money but to make ends meat.

She met a man about 4 years ago named "Bob". He wined and dined her, and treated her like the princess she deserved to be treated. They courted for a little under a year and then she decided we (I was still living at home at the time) were going to be moving in with him into his home here in our town. At first he seemed like a nice guy, but shortly there after, there was something about him I just didn't like and couldn't quite place. I tried to brush off the feelings due to how happy my mother seemed. The relationship with he and I was always rocky due to this, but my mother and he had a good life together. They married about 2 or so years after they met, and we ended up moving into a home they were able to buy about 2 years ago. The home was put into my mother's name. Most of the bills were co-signed or in my mother's name. This was (according to "Bob") so that if they ever did split up or divorce, etc, then "she would be able to have everything". They have bought several cars over the years, a new Harley Davidson, and several other toys that make life enjoyable. Things seemed ok and over the past year of 2006 and 2007 I ended up being cooperable with him and his decisions about the household and what they wanted out of their lives.

I ended up moving out on my own the beginning of this year into my first apartment. I was living with them in their new home from about August 2006 to February 2007. One of my "conditions" of living there was that I was to give every half of my paycheck (which was about 300$ on average) in cash to "Bob" for him to "save" for me when I moved out. Then I would be able to have a nice one lump sum for fees to move in and maybe afford some nice furniture. You can do the math, it's about 2,100$.

Now the week I moved out, "Bob" was supposedly away on business in a neighboring city, and his transmission on the brand new truck my mom and he just purchased so he would not be able to make it home that week to get my money out of the bank to give to me. I even offered to loan him the first 1000$ to get the truck fixed if he would pay me back.

I found out a week later that my mother came home to everything besides a few select pieces of furniture in their home, GONE. There was a note left by "Bob", stating "I'm sorry I had to leave, I'll explain later, don't tell anyone". She has now found out over the past month or so that everything has been a lie.

"Bob" has had approximately 7 wives, all which were older then him, that he has also done this too. He swoons these women, wines and dines them, and then takes their money and runs. My mother's mortgages, auto bills, etx, for the past 7 MONTHS. Had not been paid. Granted, she was wrong to let him handle all of their affairs, but many typical marraiges do this. Granted, she should have questioned him more, but shouldn't you be able to trust someone whom you've been married to for over 2 years? My mother is now in over HUNDREDS of THOUSANDS of Dollars in debt to several collection agencies, and it is all because of HIM. He even somehow went to the Auto Company to get the new truck put in his name for himself to keep.

My mother is now living with my Grandparents (her parents) here in town. She is trying to sell the lovely house they bought together for less then HALF of what it is worth so she can hopefully get out from underneath the forclosure. "Bob" is now living with some woman in town whom has a 3 year old daughter. He has his own detailing business that he uses my mother's brand new truck to drive his equipment around in. I never received the two-thousand dollars I had given him over the time frame, and I think it's safe to say that he's ripped the past several years out of mine and my mother's life.

Now MY POINT:

There has to be something that we can do about this. If not, he's going to continue to do this the rest of his life, taking advantage of women, taking along their lives and HEARTS with him. My mother has NO MONEY. Let alone can she afford a lawyer to help beat this guy. ANY ADVICE? If so, you can POST here or even email me at [email]angel_myst22@yahoo.com[/email], this is my personal email.

This is a cry for help, Please, anything offered would be helpful.

Jesus!

Now I know why divorce lawyers charge so much to listen to this crap.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Jesus!

Now I know why divorce lawyers charge so much to listen to this crap.

*splurt!*
Coffee on the screen!

[valkyrie_kate]

Honestly I thought this was an advise collum/forum... and that's all I was looking for. If it gets you off to so as you put it "SPURT" coffee on your computer screen and make fun of other people's expenses, then have at it... I just honestly hope that this isn't the best thing that happened to you today, because that would be quite sad.