Very unique case of spousal abandonment. I'm in dire need of advice, thanks.

[JLove]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Utah

Hi everybody, and first of all, thanks for your time and attention. I'll try to make this post as short as possible, but there are many details to my case that cannot go overlooked, so I apologize in advance if the post comes out too long.

My husband (an ex service member of the US Army) and I got married on August 2004. Shortly after that, he got deployed to Iraq for second time and after coming back he got honorably discharged. He served a total of 10.5 years.

After getting out of the Army he never worked, alleging that he had PTSD and wasn't able to find any gainful employment that didn't "trigger" his issues. I fully supported him emotionally and financially throughout our marriage. I was the bread winner for pretty much all the time we were together. I'd always tried to get him to seek help at the VA and to use his GI Bill to study and improve himself while I was working to support our household. He'd always tell me to stop "nagging" him, and that he wasn't entitled to anything since he didn't retire after 20 years of service. I didn't know better at the time.

The situation became unbearable and in 2010 we decided to go to Spain for a temporary visit to my family and to give my husband a breath of fresh air in hopes that his "condition" improved. My folks even sent us money to help us out with the expenses and said money got stolen by my husband's sister, another "honorable" servicemember (I can expand upon this at your request).

Then a series of very unfortunate and painful events concerning my folks health (and the subsequent death of my father) ensued. My husband never moved a finger to learn the language or seek for any type of employment, always using the PTSD card as a excuse. Meanwhile I was the one working in anything I could find, studying and doing my best to take care of the family and our household. And of course my parents, a beautiful couple of octogenarian folks who always did anything they could to help their children, were the ones always there to support us in any possible way: emotionally and financially. My husband managed to fool us all.

In 2014 my husband got in touch with one of his old Army buddies who works for the VA. We agreed that he'd come back to the States to settle residency and financial stability and I'd join him upon completion of my studies. He landed in Florida on May 2014. His buddy hooked him up with all the paperwork at the VA and his disability claim got started. Somehow my husband managed to obtain an award of disability of 70% and the consequent monthly paycheck associated with it of about $1,500.00, along with a backpay of over $20,000.00, which he always told me that he'd put on a savings account in order to have some security until the moment I could join him and start working together towards our common goals and pay my parents for all the support given to us. Our relationship continued going on at a distance as it has previously done during his tours of duty in Iraq. Things seemed to be getting better for him and I couldn't be happier to see my husband improving day after day and working hard for a better future for us (so he claimed).

On May 2015, exactly a year after my husband's arrival to FL, I came to know via social media that my husband had been having an affair with one of his coworkers. Pretty much the moment his "disability" money hit the bank, he decided to skip the moral and economic debt to my parents and discard me like yesterday's trash. I confronted him that night and he cut me off completely, closed our joint bank account and moved into his mistress house. Any attempt to get a hold of him was met with either silence on his part or the paramour's derogatory, humiliating and threatening messages.

I managed to come back here and I had to go to the only place I could find some sort of support. Thanks to the help of my friends who graciously allowed me to live in their garage I could get a fresh start, got a minimum wage job and with a lot of sacrifice I managed to hire an attorney and finally filed for divorce on May 2016, a year after I found out about my husband's treacherous deeds. This attorney never had the slightest intention of fighting for my rights and pushed me for a mediation, promising that my husband was obligated to assist (which of course was a lie in order to get as much money as he could before dropping the case). All I wanted was to have at least a word from my husband, to see him face to face and get an explanation from him and at least some closure at last. My husband of course didn't show up, and the mediation had to be done by phone. My lawyer made me settle for an amount of $150.00 a month during three years. I was an emotional wreck at that moment.

I fully intend to have this stupid mediation voided and represent myself, taking this matter to the Courts. I am making minimum wage, and while I'm not even able able to afford health insurance, let alone a piece of junk car in order to find a better job, my husband has already bought his mistress two brand new cars and is supporting her and her offspring from different fathers. The "lady" in question also has a past history of taking advantage of mentally weak soldiers for her own benefits (at this point I would swear in front of God and men that my husband has been faking his alleged issues in order to get a free handout from Uncle Sam on the death of his own brothers-in-arms). His behaviour has been nothing short of narcissistic and psychopathic.

He has used my personal data and our marriage to get more money than he would be entitled to had he been single. He has always claimed me as a dependent without ever having given a dime for the support of our household. Right now he's getting his disability compensation, his full GI Bill benefits (housing, books and living allowances, the whole nine yards) and he's also working full time, something he never did during our marriage. For some odd reason it seems that government monies have been the miraculous cure for all his earlier "triggers" and "traumas", and all of a sudden he's able to work again. What a coincidence. Meanwhile, I'm living in the only place I can afford right now, a room with no windows across my place of work.

I fully intend to take this matter to the courts and represent myself, since that's all I can afford. I guess I also cannot afford PTSD after all the sorrow, pain and devastation that the so called "man" I married put me and my parents through. It is quite obvious that he concocted all this treachery since the very beginning and just wanted to keep me in Spain, and make his runaway as humiliating and painful as he possible could in order to crush me so I could never be able to get back on my feet and fight for my rights. He literally abandoned me in Spain hoping to leave me stranded and never see me again.

I need some legal advice on how to handle this case. And I need justice more than anything else. Which sadly, usually has nothing to do with men's law.

Thanks in advance.

 

[CTU]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Utah

Hi everybody, and first of all, thanks for your time and attention. I'll try to make this post as short as possible, but there are many details to my case that cannot go overlooked, so I apologize in advance if the post comes out too long.

My husband (an ex service member of the US Army) and I got married on August 2004. Shortly after that, he got deployed to Iraq for second time and after coming back he got honorably discharged. He served a total of 10.5 years.

After getting out of the Army he never worked, alleging that he had PTSD and wasn't able to find any gainful employment that didn't "trigger" his issues. I fully supported him emotionally and financially throughout our marriage. I was the bread winner for pretty much all the time we were together. I'd always tried to get him to seek help at the VA and to use his GI Bill to study and improve himself while I was working to support our household. He'd always tell me to stop "nagging" him, and that he wasn't entitled to anything since he didn't retire after 20 years of service. I didn't know better at the time.

The situation became unbearable and in 2010 we decided to go to Spain for a temporary visit to my family and to give my husband a breath of fresh air in hopes that his "condition" improved. My folks even sent us money to help us out with the expenses and said money got stolen by my husband's sister, another "honorable" servicemember (I can expand upon this at your request).

Then a series of very unfortunate and painful events concerning my folks health (and the subsequent death of my father) ensued. My husband never moved a finger to learn the language or seek for any type of employment, always using the PTSD card as a excuse. Meanwhile I was the one working in anything I could find, studying and doing my best to take care of the family and our household. And of course my parents, a beautiful couple of octogenarian folks who always did anything they could to help their children, were the ones always there to support us in any possible way: emotionally and financially. My husband managed to fool us all.

In 2014 my husband got in touch with one of his old Army buddies who works for the VA. We agreed that he'd come back to the States to settle residency and financial stability and I'd join him upon completion of my studies. He landed in Florida on May 2014. His buddy hooked him up with all the paperwork at the VA and his disability claim got started. Somehow my husband managed to obtain an award of disability of 70% and the consequent monthly paycheck associated with it of about $1,500.00, along with a backpay of over $20,000.00, which he always told me that he'd put on a savings account in order to have some security until the moment I could join him and start working together towards our common goals and pay my parents for all the support given to us. Our relationship continued going on at a distance as it has previously done during his tours of duty in Iraq. Things seemed to be getting better for him and I couldn't be happier to see my husband improving day after day and working hard for a better future for us (so he claimed).

On May 2015, exactly a year after my husband's arrival to FL, I came to know via social media that my husband had been having an affair with one of his coworkers. Pretty much the moment his "disability" money hit the bank, he decided to skip the moral and economic debt to my parents and discard me like yesterday's trash. I confronted him that night and he cut me off completely, closed our joint bank account and moved into his mistress house. Any attempt to get a hold of him was met with either silence on his part or the paramour's derogatory, humiliating and threatening messages.

I managed to come back here and I had to go to the only place I could find some sort of support. Thanks to the help of my friends who graciously allowed me to live in their garage I could get a fresh start, got a minimum wage job and with a lot of sacrifice I managed to hire an attorney and finally filed for divorce on May 2016, a year after I found out about my husband's treacherous deeds. This attorney never had the slightest intention of fighting for my rights and pushed me for a mediation, promising that my husband was obligated to assist (which of course was a lie in order to get as much money as he could before dropping the case). All I wanted was to have at least a word from my husband, to see him face to face and get an explanation from him and at least some closure at last. My husband of course didn't show up, and the mediation had to be done by phone. My lawyer made me settle for an amount of $150.00 a month during three years. I was an emotional wreck at that moment.

I fully intend to have this stupid mediation voided and represent myself, taking this matter to the Courts. I am making minimum wage, and while I'm not even able able to afford health insurance, let alone a piece of junk car in order to find a better job, my husband has already bought his mistress two brand new cars and is supporting her and her offspring from different fathers. The "lady" in question also has a past history of taking advantage of mentally weak soldiers for her own benefits (at this point I would swear in front of God and men that my husband has been faking his alleged issues in order to get a free handout from Uncle Sam on the death of his own brothers-in-arms). His behaviour has been nothing short of narcissistic and psychopathic.

He has used my personal data and our marriage to get more money than he would be entitled to had he been single. He has always claimed me as a dependent without ever having given a dime for the support of our household. Right now he's getting his disability compensation, his full GI Bill benefits (housing, books and living allowances, the whole nine yards) and he's also working full time, something he never did during our marriage. For some odd reason it seems that government monies have been the miraculous cure for all his earlier "triggers" and "traumas", and all of a sudden he's able to work again. What a coincidence. Meanwhile, I'm living in the only place I can afford right now, a room with no windows across my place of work.

I fully intend to take this matter to the courts and represent myself, since that's all I can afford. I guess I also cannot afford PTSD after all the sorrow, pain and devastation that the so called "man" I married put me and my parents through. It is quite obvious that he concocted all this treachery since the very beginning and just wanted to keep me in Spain, and make his runaway as humiliating and painful as he possible could in order to crush me so I could never be able to get back on my feet and fight for my rights. He literally abandoned me in Spain hoping to leave me stranded and never see me again.

I need some legal advice on how to handle this case. And I need justice more than anything else. Which sadly, usually has nothing to do with men's law.

Thanks in advance.

PTSD is no joke and you clearly have absolutely no idea how difficult it is to obtain a disability award (be it civilian or military); worse, your attitude towards a disabled veteran (a disabled anyone, actually) is, frankly, disgusting.

Hire an attorney.

 

[JLove]

PTSD is no joke and you clearly have absolutely no idea how difficult it is to obtain a disability award (be it civilian or military); worse, your attitude towards a disabled veteran (a disabled anyone, actually) is, frankly, disgusting.

Hire an attorney.

Excuse me? When did I ever said that PTSD was a joke? Believe me, I know EXACTLY what PTSD is.

My attitude you say? Try being a wife for over 12 years and FULLY supporting the man you married through thick and thin, working your ass off while he spends his time playing videogames and browsing porn sites (this I found out very recently, and I'm not even talking about run off the mill porn, I'm talking about transgender porn, crossdressing and even INCEST). Try having your own parents being taken advantage of, after supporting for over 4 years the man you married like one of their own sons (when his own blood family couldn't care less if he lived or died). Try having your octogenarian parents life savings literally STOLEN by your husband's sister, and see him afterwards, not only doing absolutely NOTHING to repair the damage done, but also play the victim over and over again, looking for excuses not to repair let alone the money, but the kindness and unconditional love invested on him. Try seeing the man you married become an empty shell and a complete piece of trash to the ones who were always there supporting him at his lowest worst, and still keep fighting day after day to make your marriage work. Try sacrificing your own health and mental sanity in hopes of sparing him of any pain, just to be repaid with a full year full of lies, deceit, cheating and the utmost disrespect for any of the very values he himself swore to uphold. Try giving him all the space, time and freedom needed to work out his issues, totally sacrificing and forsaking your own self for his sole good, just to have all your illusions broken all of a sudden. Try discovering that the man you married and fully trusted has been lying to you for an entire year, promising that he was working hard for a better future while he was instead wasting away his time and money on a cheap barracks whore for whom he decided to dump you like yesterday's garbage. Try discovering all of a sudden that your sacrifices and love meant absolutely NOTHING to him. Try being humiliated and ridiculed in front of you entire family, before which you have been defending that man over and over again and excusing his inexcusable behaviour. Try having your marriage of 12 years broken through Facebook without any explanation or closure whatsoever, other than the humiliating words of some cheap tramp who's taking advantage of the situation. Try seeing him acting like a complete pantywaist towards this so called "woman" while having no concerns for his own family. Try having to live on some cheap and dirty quarters because you cannot afford anymore while he and his paramour waste money in cars, eating out every day and all sorts of stupid whims. Try hearing directly from your own husband's lips "I know very well how to tell those shrinks exactly what they want to hear".

Try that and many more my friend, then come back at me with the PTSD crap.

I never said REAL PTSD was a joke.

Thanks for your useless advice though. The point of this thread is precisely the impossibility of hiring an attorney.

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Utah

Hi everybody, and first of all, thanks for your time and attention. I'll try to make this post as short as possible, but there are many details to my case that cannot go overlooked, so I apologize in advance if the post comes out too long.

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I need some legal advice on how to handle this case. And I need justice more than anything else. Which sadly, usually has nothing to do with men's law.

Thanks in advance.

While the white space was much appreciated, that is way too long and detailed for most to slog through. Before you try and file anything yourself, you really need to learn how to self-edit. A judge is not going to be interested in all the emotional stuff.

It's unclear if you have a court order and/or your divorce is final.

ETA: p.s. You may find your money better spent on getting some counseling to help you learn how to cope with your bitterness and why you made the choices you did. Good luck.

 

[Zigner]

I read the whole thing. All I see is a "woe is me" with no question(s). The OP wants someone else to hold her hand through the entire thing...oh, and this particular OP seems to think the law is more favorable to men than to woman.

 

[JLove]

While the white space was much appreciated, that is way too long and detailed for most to slog through. Before you try and file anything yourself, you really need to learn how to self-edit. A judge is not going to be interested in all the emotional stuff.

It's unclear if you have a court order and/or your divorce is final.

ETA: p.s. You may find your money better spent on getting some counseling to help you learn how to cope with your bitterness and why you made the choices you did. Good luck.

I thought I made it clear that I filed for divorce and my attorney was a slug going only after my money. He pushed me into a ridiculous mediation promising me that my husband would have to assist in person (obviously that wasn't the case). Said mediation took place last month, my husband did not show up and I was pushed to sign an agreement that states that my husband would have to pay me $150.00 per month during 3 years. Those are the legal facts.

My lawyer, seeing that there was no more money to gain, dropped the case immediately afterwards. I do not agree with this stupid mediation, I do not have money to hire a lawyer and I intend to keep fighting on my own for what's right.

So, in a nutshell:

- Married for more than 12 years.
- Husband ABANDONS me in another country after lying to me for an entire year, leaving me stranded with no resources.
- I man up, manage to come back and file for divorce.
- First two paragraphs above.

I hope it's a little bit more clear now.

PS: I am not bitter, I've been lied to, cheated on, hurt beyond what words can say and ridiculed by the very man whom I made the center of my life. Counseling you say? Hahaha, right. Not happening. It would affect my prospective career in a very negative way. Do I have PTSD after this ordeal? You bet. But I simply CANNOT afford it, for the very sake of my future career. See, unlike the "upstanding" GI Joe, I don't get governments freebies for going "wah wah wah", so unlike him, I can only suck it up and deal with it. I will NOT compromise my own future and my children's for going to cry to a random shrink who would solve absolutely NOTHING. Thanks for the advice though.

Besides all these points, I'll say this too for those complaining about my "lack of empathy" towards the "poor disabled honorable veteran" (yes, that one who took a huge crap on every single value he once swore to uphold and took advantage of the good people who helped him for years when he was at his lowest worst): PTSD comes in many shapes and forms, and it is certainly not limited to GI Joes. Police officers can have it, paramedics and first aid respondents can have it, firefighters can have it, and you can take it to the bank abandoned spouses can have it, specially after having done everything and more for years to support their beloved spouses through thick and thin, only to be discarded like all their devotion meant ****e. Yet, I have never seen a bigger bunch of users, abusers and fakers of said condition as people in the Military. I've seen it on my husband, I've seen it on his friends, and I've seen it on my own friends.

Learn the difference between PTSD and narcissism. I have done it in the hardest way. And trust me on this one, I've been the most avid supporter of the Military and its values. You would hardly find anybody who has done more to support the institution and one of its servicemembers as I did for years, compromising my own health and my own family. And I'm not even a citizen yet.

To hell with this PTSD faking crap.

 

[Zigner]

I thought I made it clear that I filed for divorce and my attorney was a slug going only after my money. He pushed me into a ridiculous mediation promising me that my husband would have to assist in person (obviously that wasn't the case). Said mediation took place last month, my husband did not show up and I was pushed to sign an agreement that states that my husband would have to pay me $150.00 per month during 3 years. Those are the legal facts.

My lawyer, seeing that there was no more money to gain, dropped the case immediately afterwards. I do not agree with this stupid mediation, I do not have money to hire a lawyer and I intend to keep fighting on my own for what's right.

So, in a nutshell:

- Married for more than 12 years.
- Husband ABANDONS me in another country after lying to me for an entire year, leaving me stranded with no resources.
- I man up, manage to come back and file for divorce.
- First two paragraphs above.

I hope it's a little bit more clear now.

PS: I am not bitter, I've been lied to, cheated on, hurt beyond what words can say and ridiculed by the very man whom I made the center of my life. Counseling you say? Hahaha, right. Not happening. It would affect my prospective career in a very negative way. Do I have PTSD after this ordeal? You bet. But I simply CANNOT afford it, for the very sake of my future career. See, unlike the "upstanding" GI Joe, I don't get governments freebies for going "wah wah wah", so unlike him, I can only suck it up and deal with it. I will NOT compromise my own future and my children's for going to cry to a random shrink who would solve absolutely NOTHING. Thanks for the advice though.

Besides all these points, I'll say this too for those complaining about my "lack of empathy" towards the "poor disabled honorable veteran" (yes, that one who took a huge crap on every single value he once swore to uphold and took advantage of the good people who helped him for years when he was at his lowest worst): PTSD comes in many shapes and forms, and it is certainly not limited to GI Joes. Police officers can have it, paramedics and first aid respondents can have it, firefighters can have it, and you can take it to the bank abandoned spouses can have it, specially after having done everything and more for years to support their beloved spouses through thick and thin, only to be discarded like all their devotion meant ****e. Yet, I have never seen a bigger bunch of users, abusers and fakers of said condition as people in the Military. I've seen it on my husband, I've seen it on his friends, and I've seen it on my own friends.

Learn the difference between PTSD and narcissism. I have done it in the hardest way. And trust me on this one, I've been the most avid supporter of the Military and its values. You would hardly find anybody who has done more to support the institution and one of its servicemembers as I did for years, compromising my own health and my own family. And I'm not even a citizen yet.

To hell with this PTSD faking crap.

Definitely bitter. Definitely in need of counseling.

 

[CTU]

You need more help than a message board could ever provide.

Disgusting.

 

[torimac]

You signed the papers. Realistically, you have been supporting your husband through his illness. His illness does not allow him to work. He has only $1500 to pay rent, food, and medical bills while you have a regular salary. It is very difficult to be awarded disability for PTSD, so unless your chosen field is psychiatry, you really don't know what you are talking about.
How do you expect him to pay you anything on $1500 a month? You will be getting 10% for a few months. If you did not agree with the papers, you should not have signed them. If you disagreed with your lawyer, you should have fired them.

You are aware that one of the symptoms of narcissism is blaming everyone else for your actions and problems, yes? You moved to Spain, you hired the lawyer, you signed the papers.

And yes, you are bitter. Please get some therapy.

 

[Ohiogal]

You signed the papers. Realistically, you have been supporting your husband through his illness. His illness does not allow him to work. He has only $1500 to pay rent, food, and medical bills while you have a regular salary. It is very difficult to be awarded disability for PTSD, so unless your chosen field is psychiatry, you really don't know what you are talking about.
How do you expect him to pay you anything on $1500 a month? You will be getting 10% for a few months. If you did not agree with the papers, you should not have signed them. If you disagreed with your lawyer, you should have fired them.

You are aware that one of the symptoms of narcissism is blaming everyone else for your actions and problems, yes? You moved to Spain, you hired the lawyer, you signed the papers.

And yes, you are bitter. Please get some therapy.

The best part is SHE could have been ordered to pay HIM alimony. That is fact.

 

[JLove]

You signed the papers. Realistically, you have been supporting your husband through his illness. His illness does not allow him to work. He has only $1500 to pay rent, food, and medical bills while you have a regular salary. It is very difficult to be awarded disability for PTSD, so unless your chosen field is psychiatry, you really don't know what you are talking about.
How do you expect him to pay you anything on $1500 a month? You will be getting 10% for a few months. If you did not agree with the papers, you should not have signed them. If you disagreed with your lawyer, you should have fired them.

You are aware that one of the symptoms of narcissism is blaming everyone else for your actions and problems, yes? You moved to Spain, you hired the lawyer, you signed the papers.

And yes, you are bitter. Please get some therapy.

My husband is currently working full time. It is NOW is when he's working, something he NEVER did in over 10 years. I really don't know if I'm not explaining myself clearly.

- We got married, he got out of the Army and NEVER worked, using his alleged PTSD as a excuse.
- I always tried to get him seeking help for his issues and to use his GI Bill to better himself, which he NEVER did. Instead, he'd tell me to stop "nagging" him. Meanwhile, he never lacked a warm meal or a roof upon his head, thanks to MY work, loyalty and support.
- We went to Spain at a point when I simply could not take the situation anymore, in hopes that things would get easier for both of us.
- Once there, he keeps just mooching off me and my parents, who helped us all the time and fully empathized with him and his alleged "issues".
- Four years after, he comes back to FL and his buddy hooks him up. He also starts working right away.
- He makes me believe that our marriage keeps going on at distance. I had no idea that he decided to get a side dish.
- I found out through his paramour postings of facebook and her derogatory messages towards me. My husband doesn't say a word and cuts all contact with me.
- He abandons me without a single word, explanation or closure whatsoever.
- He moves to the mistress house, supports her and her offspring and buys all sorts of gifts for her and 2 brand new cars.
- He works full time, gets his "disability" money and all his GI Bill benefits (about 2 grand more monthly).
- Of course, he's still claiming me as a dependent for VA and tax purposes. His plan was perfectly concocted and gave its fruits, except for the fact that I managed to come back and uncover his whole fraud.

Better now?

Ok, now as for the mediation, I was literally PUSHED to sign it by some snake who just wanted to drop my case as soon as he could (that'd be my "honorable" attorney). I was a complete emotional wreck at that moment.

All I'm asking is the legal options after this unfair deal.

And yes, I'm well aware of the symptoms of narcissism. My husband had the nerve of blaming me and my parents for our full and unconditional support, saying that we "enabled" him not to work.

Just getting the facts straight.

 

[JLove]

The best part is SHE could have been ordered to pay HIM alimony. That is fact.

You're kidding, right? After his lies, treachery, adultery and further abandonment? You gotta be kidding me son.

 

[CTU]

The best part is SHE could have been ordered to pay HIM alimony. That is fact.

Honestly, it reads like a practice session someone wanted to run by a team of knowledgeable folk in the hopes of convincing a judge how wronged she is.

Doesn't make it any less offensive though. I'm sure our youngest, PTSD-suffering, disabled vet daughter would appreciate this OP's "opinions".

 

[CTU]

My husband is currently working full time. It is NOW is when he's working, something he NEVER did in over 10 years. I really don't know if I'm not explaining myself clearly.

- We got married, he got out of the Army and NEVER worked, using his alleged PTSD as a excuse.
- I always tried to get him seeking help for his issues and to use his GI Bill to better himself, which he NEVER did. Instead, he'd tell me to stop "nagging" him. Meanwhile, he never lacked a warm meal or a roof upon his head, thanks to MY work, loyalty and support.
- We went to Spain at a point when I simply could not take the situation anymore, in hopes that things would get easier for both of us.
- Once there, he keeps just mooching off me and my parents, who helped us all the time and fully empathized with him and his alleged "issues".
- Four years after, he comes back to FL and his buddy hooks him up. He also starts working right away.
- He makes me believe that our marriage keeps going on at distance. I had no idea that he decided to get a side dish.
- I found out through his paramour postings of facebook and her derogatory messages towards me. My husband doesn't say a word and cuts all contact with me.
- He abandons me without a single word, explanation or closure whatsoever.
- He moves to the mistress house, supports her and her offspring and buys all sorts of gifts for her and 2 brand new cars.
- He works full time, gets his "disability" money and all his GI Bill benefits (about 2 grand more monthly).
- Of course, he's still claiming me as a dependent for VA and tax purposes. His plan was perfectly concocted and gave its fruits, except for the fact that I managed to come back and uncover his whole fraud.

Better now?

Ok, now as for the mediation, I was literally PUSHED to sign it by some snake who just wanted to drop my case as soon as he could (that'd be my "honorable" attorney). I was a complete emotional wreck at that moment.

All I'm asking is the legal options after this unfair deal.

And yes, I'm well aware of the symptoms of narcissism. My husband had the nerve of blaming me and my parents for our full and unconditional support, saying that we "enabled" him not to work.

Just getting the facts straight.

We can certainly see who the snake is, dear. "Alleged" PTSD indeed. Your bitterness is palpable. You need therapy - badly.

 

[Ohiogal]

You're kidding, right? After his lies, treachery, adultery and further abandonment? You gotta be kidding me son.

That comment of yours shows a whole hell of a lot of ignorance.
A) I am not a man.
B) I am an attorney.
C) You EARNED more than he during the marriage so yes, spousal support with you paying him is definitely a possibility.
D) Try not being stupid, arrogant or insulting in your postings.