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Old 03-18-2007, 08:35 PM
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Wanna be Fair but not screwed

What is the name of your state? Nevada
Married three years, He is the bread winner, she had a part time job prior to marriage but was stay at home Mom during marriage, Her 2 kids only, she receives 1046 monthly in child support from first ex, she is trying to get part time job now. No real skills to speak of. What is a fair offer to keep out of courts?
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Old 03-18-2007, 08:43 PM
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Who are you in this?

This is a VERY short term marriage. Are you saying she was staying home to support someone ELSES kids? He shouldn't agree to any alimony.

She should file for her kid's dad to pay their share of child care so she can get a FULL time job. Her STBX is NOT responsible to support her choice to stay home with another man's kids. That is not HIS financial responsibility. She needs to get working.
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Old 03-18-2007, 08:47 PM
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don't wanna screw her over

I am the STBX husband. She wants me to help her move out of state and help her get settled in her hometown where she has family
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Old 03-18-2007, 08:48 PM
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What is the name of your state? Nevada
Married three years, He is the bread winner, she had a part time job prior to marriage but was stay at home Mom during marriage, Her 2 kids only, she receives 1046 monthly in child support from first ex, she is trying to get part time job now. No real skills to speak of. What is a fair offer to keep out of courts?
That is a tough question to answer. Its unlikely that she would be entitled to any alimony/spousal support because the marriage was so short.

However there could be significant property settlement issues. You need a consult with a local attorney.
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Old 03-18-2007, 08:52 PM
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I am the STBX husband. She wants me to help her move out of state and help her get settled in her hometown where she has family
If the children of her first ex live in your state, she CAN'T just up and move out of state without first getting their dad's or the court's permission.

Do you own a house? Debts and assets acquired during the marriage are normally shared in an equitable manner.
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She realizes she will have a legal fight to move. That fight she is 100% financially responsible for.

As for assets ...we are splitting everything up pretty fairly. Whatever we had before the marriage is still ours and everything during will be 50/50. The house is his and the two cars ...one car to each....It is just the question of whether I should help her get restarted. We are delaying the divorce so her daughter can finish out the school year here. She's not biologically mine but I still feel a moral responsibility to ensure this hurts the daughter as little as possible. This is why I am thinking of helping the exwife get restarted. I wanted to know what the courts would say.
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She realizes she will have a legal fight to move. That fight she is 100% financially responsible for.

As for assets ...we are splitting everything up pretty fairly. Whatever we had before the marriage is still ours and everything during will be 50/50. The house is his and the two cars ...one car to each....It is just the question of whether I should help her get restarted. We are delaying the divorce so her daughter can finish out the school year here. She's not biologically mine but I still feel a moral responsibility to ensure this hurts the daughter as little as possible. This is why I am thinking of helping the exwife get restarted. I wanted to know what the courts would say.
You certainly are free to help her with some support. I'd just advise against agreeing to any spousal support through a court order.

"The house is his and the two cars ...one car to each...."

Are you SURE you're the STBX husband? Your pronoun use indicates you may be the wife.
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Old 03-18-2007, 09:06 PM
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definitely the man here....just worded it wrong....can I get credit for allowing them to stay at their current home to finish school? I am also promoting her getting a job now and keep all her earnings in savings to help.
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A credit against what? Her share of Jt assets? You could agree to pay X amt to her for three or so months Until school year ends), in exchange for keeping all the retirement account (if there was any 401k accrual). If you are letting them stay in your home until end of school, that is worth whatever a comparable rent would be!
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Old 03-18-2007, 09:26 PM
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definitely the man here....just worded it wrong....can I get credit for allowing them to stay at their current home to finish school? I am also promoting her getting a job now and keep all her earnings in savings to help.
Are the cars paid for? Who is the borrower on the loan?
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Old 03-18-2007, 09:32 PM
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vehicles are paid for

as far as credit I was thinking credit against any possible support ordered.

There is not any 401K or retirement.
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vehicles are paid for

as far as credit I was thinking credit against any possible support ordered.

There is not any 401K or retirement.
No significant marital assets, she didn't put you through school, you've BEEN supprting her already through the marriage so she could get these last three years home with her kids, who are not yours. TRuly, fight against ANY support, especially if you give her your premarital house until school is out.


36 months is a VERY short term marriage. It would be highly unlikely under the circumstances you named, to be ordered to pay SS. Is she ASKING for SS? If so get an attorney.
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Old 03-19-2007, 07:04 AM
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vehicles are paid for

as far as credit I was thinking credit against any possible support ordered.

There is not any 401K or retirement.
I see no reason why a judge would order you to pay any support. However, if you are inclined to help her move, that would really be a very nice thing for you to do. The divorce will likely go much smoother if you do and it might pay for itself in what you save in legal fees.
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Old 03-19-2007, 08:29 AM
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I see no reason why a judge would order you to pay any support. However, if you are inclined to help her move, that would really be a very nice thing for you to do. The divorce will likely go much smoother if you do and it might pay for itself in what you save in legal fees.
If you see a court would not likely order alimony, beg for it and threaten to run up legal fees?
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Old 03-19-2007, 01:25 PM
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If you see a court would not likely order alimony, beg for it and threaten to run up legal fees?
That makes no sense Bali.
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