My spouse has been in and out of rehab's (we're talking into the double digits) for six years, hasn't held a steady job in three years (maybe more, it's all a blur now), has vandalized my home, threatened our kids (telling them the home would be lost in a divorce and they would be living in the streets with no friends), won't even begin to negotiate on a settlement agreement and by way of a support order (I did tell her if she went through with the order I could not pay many bills) lost her vehicle to repossession because I no longer had the capital to pay that bill and the insurance as it was going to her (plus much more). My divorce is not about assets. It is about debt. I have my home and a pension that I cannot access until I am 67; I am late 30's. I really don't even care about the home furnishings, she can have what she wan'ts. I offered her a good chunk of equity (off-setting some of her debt that resulted in a lien on my home) and half the pension. I offered some structured payments for a a couple years that decreased year's three and four. My only concern is having to pay for this behavior for several years as we were married for 14 years. I am trying to "get structured" so I can actually make a budget, take care of debt and give my kids the best I can and I cannot for the life of me figure out what will happen to me financially as it seems she is hellbent on taking this to court (yet more debt being incurred as I have my lawyer fee's and her attorney has submitted I pay her attorney as well).
Does anyone know what I can expect in Western PA? Will I be forced to pay her handsomely for her behavior and wrecking our home? Will I even get a shot at keeping my kids and I in our home? Will I even have enough left over to pay debt off?
thanks for any input...
Does anyone know what I can expect in Western PA? Will I be forced to pay her handsomely for her behavior and wrecking our home? Will I even get a shot at keeping my kids and I in our home? Will I even have enough left over to pay debt off?
thanks for any input...