What financial assistance can I get?

[pgandalone]

What is the name of your state? VA

My fiance and I were together for about 2 years. We got engaged in October 2005 and almost imediately decided to start a family. I am 4 months pregnant and my fiance decided one week before our wedding day (4/29/06) that he did not want to marry me. He now does not want to be together at all, and does not want to help with any bills. My name is the only name on the lease but I rely on his contributions to afford rent and bills. Do I have a case for support? Is child support offered before the baby is born? I don't think that I have a case, but I needed to check.
Thanks

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by pgandalone

What is the name of your state? VA

My fiance and I were together for about 2 years. We got engaged in October 2005 and almost imediately decided to start a family. I am 4 months pregnant and my fiance decided one week before our wedding day (4/29/06) that he did not want to marry me. He now does not want to be together at all, and does not want to help with any bills. My name is the only name on the lease but I rely on his contributions to afford rent and bills. Do I have a case for support? Is child support offered before the baby is born? I don't think that I have a case, but I needed to check.
Thanks

Sorry, you do not have a case...but as soon as the baby is born file for Child support!

Congatulations on your baby!!

Bay

[pgandalone]

Thanks for the real answer bay - appreciate that.
As for the rest - I will not get rid of my child because I made a conciuos decision to make this child. I do not just wipe away (or kill) my responsibilities. This was not an accidental pregnancy.
As far as being a statistic, I would not, even in my wildest dreams, even qualify for assistance (WIC or otherwise) because I have worked hard and have an upper level position with my company.
Aborting the child would just mean that he gets away with being a coward, and I would have to live with being a coward for the rest of my life, which I am not.
If you are going to post such unhelpful remarks, why even come to this site? People come here for help, not to be mocked. If I wanted to have an abortion, I wouldn't need to ask anything here, would I?

[Neal1421]

Originally Posted by pgandalone

Thanks for the real answer bay - appreciate that.
As for the rest - I will not get rid of my child because I made a conciuos decision to make this child. I do not just wipe away (or kill) my responsibilities. This was not an accidental pregnancy.
As far as being a statistic, I would not, even in my wildest dreams, even qualify for assistance (WIC or otherwise) because I have worked hard and have an upper level position with my company.
Aborting the child would just mean that he gets away with being a coward, and I would have to live with being a coward for the rest of my life, which I am not.
If you are going to post such unhelpful remarks, why even come to this site? People come here for help, not to be mocked. If I wanted to have an abortion, I wouldn't need to ask anything here, would I?

If that is the case, then why say this:

Originally Posted by pgandalone

He now does not want to be together at all, and does not want to help with any bills. My name is the only name on the lease but I rely on his contributions to afford rent and bills. Do I have a case for support?

Bottom line is the only thing you can get from he is child support when the child is born. Until then he is under no obligation to you and does not have to contribute to any of your medical bills or anything else.

[BelizeBreeze]

Actually, you CAN file now for child support. Contingent upon a live birth, the hearing will be held until the birth. Also, since the two of you were not married, a contingent DNA test will be ordered by the court.

By filing now, you will be increasing your chances of retroactive support from the birth.

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by pgandalone

Thanks for the real answer bay - appreciate that.
As for the rest - I will not get rid of my child because I made a conciuos decision to make this child. I do not just wipe away (or kill) my responsibilities. This was not an accidental pregnancy. As far as being a statistic, I would not, even in my wildest dreams, even qualify for assistance (WIC or otherwise) because I have worked hard and have an upper level position with my company.
Aborting the child would just mean that he gets away with being a coward, and I would have to live with being a coward for the rest of my life, which I am not. If you are going to post such unhelpful remarks, why even come to this site? People come here for help, not to be mocked. If I wanted to have an abortion, I wouldn't need to ask anything here, would I?

What purpose did ANY of the underlined remarks serve? No one mentioned anything to that effect, so why bring it up?

It's GREAT that you don't expect the tax payers to support your child, but the other remarks were uncalled for.

[Neal1421]

Originally Posted by ceara19

What purpose did ANY of the underlined remarks serve? No one mentioned anything to that effect, so why bring it up?

It's GREAT that you don't expect the tax payers to support your child, but the other remarks were uncalled for.

IAAL posted at few statements that got deleted. I'm sure you can figure out what was said that would cause such a response.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by ceara19

What purpose did ANY of the underlined remarks serve? No one mentioned anything to that effect, so why bring it up?

It's GREAT that you don't expect the tax payers to support your child, but the other remarks were uncalled for.

OP was responding to a post by IAAL...I guess Mar y deleted it....You can imagine what he said to have her respond like that...

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by baystategirl

OP was responding to a post by IAAL...I guess Mar y deleted it....You can imagine what he said to have her respond like that...

That makes alot more sense now! I can imagine what he had to say!
I'm just in a pissy mood and probably being over sensitive.
OP - Sorry!

[AHA]

Originally Posted by ceara19

What purpose did ANY of the underlined remarks serve? No one mentioned anything to that effect, so why bring it up?

It's GREAT that you don't expect the tax payers to support your child, but the other remarks were uncalled for.

I second all of that. It's a bit pi$$y to accuse people of something that is no longer posted, so good luck on this forum after that.

[Atty-Calif001]

Originally Posted by pgandalone

What is the name of your state? VA

My fiance and I were together for about 2 years. We got engaged in October 2005 and almost imediately decided to start a family. I am 4 months pregnant and my fiance decided one week before our wedding day (4/29/06) that he did not want to marry me. He now does not want to be together at all, and does not want to help with any bills. My name is the only name on the lease but I rely on his contributions to afford rent and bills. Do I have a case for support? Is child support offered before the baby is born? I don't think that I have a case, but I needed to check.
Thanks

My response:

I suggested that she take advantage of her legal right to an abortion. All because you're still emotional about your break-up, doesn't mean that someone can't mention to you that there is a "legal" alternative. You did come here for "legal" advice, correct?

An abortion is a perfectly "legal" procedure, and one where YOU have the choice. But, I can see now from your posts, that you're too emotional for legal advice, and you'd rather "trap" your ex-fiance for the rest of his and your life.

So be it.

IAAL

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by Atty-Calif001

My response:

I suggested that she take advantage of her legal right to an abortion. All because you're still emotional about your break-up, doesn't mean that someone can't mention to you that there is a "legal" alternative. You did come here for "legal" advice, correct?

An abortion is a perfectly "legal" procedure, and one where YOU have the choice. But, I can see now from your posts, that you're too emotional for legal advice, and you'd rather "trap" your ex-fiance for the rest of his and your life.

So be it.

IAAL

You're right, it is a perfectly LEGAL option. That's why I took offence at how she chose to word her response to you. Even if you weren't tactful in your response to her (which I'm sure you were ), there is no need to equate abortion with murder.

[Atty-Calif001]

Originally Posted by ceara19

You're right, it is a perfectly LEGAL option. That's why I took offence at how she chose to word her response to you. Even if you weren't tactful in your response to her (which I'm sure you were ), there is no need to equate abortion with murder.

My response:

And, I didn't appreciate that Mary deleted my initial response to this "person" who needs support, i.e., "My name is the only name on the lease but I rely on his contributions to afford rent and bills. Do I have a case for support?", yet goes on to say, "I have worked hard and have an upper level position with my company." So, the conclusion I came to is that she'd rather be a "statistic" - - an unwed mother, who's intent is to "trap" her boyfriend, and be reminded on a daily basis of him. "If I can't have him, I'll see him everyday in his child." Very good. Use the child.



IAAL

[nextwife]

And Poster, there ARE legal alternatives to abortion. Adoption is also an acceptable alternative that does NOT kill the baby.

If you cannot support yourself without his help, and were not married, WHY are you planning to add a child you can't support? The other parent can become disabled or deceased at any time. You should at least be able to support yourself before adding a child you can't support alone if need be.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Atty-Calif001

My response:

I suggested that she take advantage of her legal right to an abortion. All because you're still emotional about your break-up, doesn't mean that someone can't mention to you that there is a "legal" alternative. You did come here for "legal" advice, correct?

An abortion is a perfectly "legal" procedure, and one where YOU have the choice. But, I can see now from your posts, that you're too emotional for legal advice, and you'd rather "trap" your ex-fiance for the rest of his and your life.
So be it.

IAAL

Right on the mark sir. Too bad people attack for telling it like it is instead of telling it like they want to hear it.

OP certainly "legally" has monthly cash in pocket keeping the kid that she probably doesn't want anyway.

But as you have stated, "it's her choice".