angelofmartyrs
Junior Member
I filed a divorce (California). I want to divorce my wife because she doesn’t seem to be in line with my objectives in life and seemed to be sabotaging my endeavors. She was fired from her job eight years ago as a new account officer in a bank. She convinced me that it is better that she just stay home and do house works. She said she was tired of working in a bank anyway. She promised to keep expenses to the minimum so I can handle all expenses with just me working. I told her that while she is not working it was a good time for her to acquire a new skill that she would wants to do. However she did not want to do anything about it. As years went by, she began to be out going. She would take the kids to school, and then she’ll go out hanging out with friends, ballroom dancing, and even going to casinos. It came to a point that her expenses was getting high. Her gasoline expense was more than my gas expense, and my work is about 20 miles away.
At this juncture, the housing industry was booming. I took the opportunity to cash out on the house’s equity and bought another house for investment. Little did I know, that the boom was about to burst. By the time the house was built, real estate market was going down. So, now have two mortgages. I found a renter, but the cash flow from the property is still negative each month.
I told my wife that I need financial help and I asked her to go back to work. Initially she refused to go back to work and argued that I can handle all the expenses. Eventually I was able to force her to go back to work, but she took a part time job, although she was offered a full time job. As matter of fact, because of her experience, and she knows people in the bank, she was offered an officer position. She declined the position. She said, she just wants a light work, and go home. She has been working for over a year, but I have not seen any penny of her salary. I am still the one covering all the expenses including the insurance on her car she purchased as soon as she got the part time job in the bank!
When she got served with the divorce, she managed to get a lawyer. Her lawyer called me and told me that according to her calculation, I will be paying an alimony of 1,730 monthly because my income is significantly higher than her income. I earn six figures. I told the lawyer that I do not agree with that, and if I have to go to court, I will go even without a lawyer.
I have a record of all the expenses in the house using a computer software which I’ve been doing for many years to track down expenses. I also do my banking online and the bank can match the transactions in the software. My expense report reveals that I am negative each month. I’ve been drawing from the savings account to cover the expenses. The savings account is getting depleted. If the court awards her an alimony of 1,730, that will be an additional major expense for me and I am already negative as it is.
My question is: if I bring an expense report to court, proving to the judge that I will not be able to afford such alimony, do you think the judge will consider that? In addition, I will tell the judge that my wife is capable of working full time and taking a higher salary position because she has a college degree in “Banking and Finance” and she has 20 years experience working in a bank. There is absolutely nothing that will preclude her from working full time. Will the judge listen to me?
I will greatly appreciate any response to my question.
At this juncture, the housing industry was booming. I took the opportunity to cash out on the house’s equity and bought another house for investment. Little did I know, that the boom was about to burst. By the time the house was built, real estate market was going down. So, now have two mortgages. I found a renter, but the cash flow from the property is still negative each month.
I told my wife that I need financial help and I asked her to go back to work. Initially she refused to go back to work and argued that I can handle all the expenses. Eventually I was able to force her to go back to work, but she took a part time job, although she was offered a full time job. As matter of fact, because of her experience, and she knows people in the bank, she was offered an officer position. She declined the position. She said, she just wants a light work, and go home. She has been working for over a year, but I have not seen any penny of her salary. I am still the one covering all the expenses including the insurance on her car she purchased as soon as she got the part time job in the bank!
When she got served with the divorce, she managed to get a lawyer. Her lawyer called me and told me that according to her calculation, I will be paying an alimony of 1,730 monthly because my income is significantly higher than her income. I earn six figures. I told the lawyer that I do not agree with that, and if I have to go to court, I will go even without a lawyer.
I have a record of all the expenses in the house using a computer software which I’ve been doing for many years to track down expenses. I also do my banking online and the bank can match the transactions in the software. My expense report reveals that I am negative each month. I’ve been drawing from the savings account to cover the expenses. The savings account is getting depleted. If the court awards her an alimony of 1,730, that will be an additional major expense for me and I am already negative as it is.
My question is: if I bring an expense report to court, proving to the judge that I will not be able to afford such alimony, do you think the judge will consider that? In addition, I will tell the judge that my wife is capable of working full time and taking a higher salary position because she has a college degree in “Banking and Finance” and she has 20 years experience working in a bank. There is absolutely nothing that will preclude her from working full time. Will the judge listen to me?
I will greatly appreciate any response to my question.
