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[ConfusedMother2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC

Okay here's the deal. My husbands ex wife has been giving me trouble since the day I started dating my now husband. At first she wouldn't let her daughter go when it was his weekend to have her and now that we have custody of his daughter and she is the one with visitation she is always looking for trouble to start with ME. I have never gone out of my way to be mean or rude to her I try to stay out of their problems. However, its just getting worse. She has started making threats towards me, calling my cell phone all the time, showing her butt yelling at me when she comes to our house to get her daughter because she knows my husband works nights and cannot be here when she comes to get her. Is there anything I can do?

[CourtClerk]

and now that we have custody of his daughter

First you can explain to me how you got custody of her daughter.....

Then, you can tell your husband to make arrangements with his ex-wife to pick up their child when he is available.

[ConfusedMother2]

My husband found out that she was not taking their child to school like she was suppose to. The principal called my husband and told him that their daughter had missed 48days of school at that point. So they gave us custody of her because of that. He goes into work before their daughter is out of school. So their is no time for them to get together.

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by ConfusedMother2

My husband found out that she was not taking their child to school like she was suppose to. The principal called my husband and told him that their daughter had missed 48days of school at that point. So they gave us custody of her because of that.

So, in the custody order, it says specifically that YOU have custody of the child???? Or does it say that custody was awarded to your HUSBAND?

He goes into work before their daughter is out of school. So their is no time for them to get together.

Then he better make time, whether it be to modify the visitation order or to modify his work hours. Visitation is not your responsibility and I bet dollars to donuts you have more to do with this than you are willing to admit. You are not a completely innocent victim here. No one ever is and I see this day after day after day.

For instance, look at your post when you say YOU have custody of HER child...

[ConfusedMother2]

to my husband.

[CourtClerk]

I'll say it one more time.

Let your husband deal with the issues with his ex wife and his child. None of this is your business and you have no business being involved....with anything concerning that child.

[cyjeff]

Let me try to say this in another way.

I, personally, have as much legal input into your husband's daughter's life as you do.

We are BOTH legal strangers.

Children, legally, have one mother and one father. Since there are already people in those jobs, you don't have one.

Therefore, any discussions about custody, visitation or the like have absolutely nothing to do with you... and your insistance on being a part of the discussions will sway a court against you.

Strongly.