What is the name of your state? GA
My ex-boyfriend has been arrested, in jail, and I found out just got indicted for child molestation.
When my daughter made an accusation, I was interviewed by the police. I was told I was either a witness or a suspect, they just had to decide which. By the end of the interview, I was told they believed I knew nothing, and in fact over the next few days the Detective not only told me it happens to people who are doctors, lawyers, judges so I couldn't blame myself. Although I could not possibly believe this had happened, his was very convincing in the things he told me my daughter said, and although she has had a history of behavior and psychological problems including making claims that aren't true, I questioned my own instint and almost believed him. I mean I had been through so much with my girl, I love her more than life itself, but it got to the point that DFACS wouldn't even respond to her accusations because it every one had turned out to be so absurd.
He got me in touch with a victims rights organization. Because of the type of work I do, I had to know if I was going to be investigated, and he told me me no (I know they can lie at that point). At the commitment hearing of my friend, (about 30 days later) I spoke with him before the case, very friendly, and thanked him for some of his advice and referrals, because I had started counseling, which was something I had needed for awhile (had been through very bad divorce and custody dispute - not even settled at that point). When the Defense Attorney questioned if was being investigated, he testified that I was not. The attorney then asked him if it would suprise him if I was in my boyfriends corner. He seemed kind of confised and really didn't say yes or no. During his testimony though, he said so many things that were SO UNTRUE, like he never knew anything about her past psych problems or history of false outcrys - although we had long discussions about my fear of her testifing and having to be faced with "boy who cryed wolf" proof. His dates were totally wrong - he didn't know until he questioned me that she hadn't even lived with me for the past year, and I had only gotten her back in June. Arrest had already been made. His theory of case was about a four month time line that based on what I knew to be true could be 8 DAYS! There were other things, but after that hearing, I was so floored, that I started really looking into things, and believing what my first gut instinct was, that it didn't happed.
My friend (although ex boyfriend, still someone I cared about) has never had any real family and his attorney was terrible (previous posts about that) but basically when I tried to contact his attorney after that hearing and tell him what I knew he wanted nothing to do with it. New attorney took case practically pro bono when he found out about this other guy, and saw the LETTERS the apointed atty written to my friend when I made him start pushing this guy to do something that actually give him a clear case enough to have him disbarred. Anyway, new attorney is letting me work off payment of defense as well by doing paralegal/PI work for this and other cases for him. So now that prosecution finds out I am helping, discharged counsel knows I am behind what may get him at least discipled, I found out when we get copy of inictment that I AM LISTED AS CO DEFENDANT! Lawyer has to wait till Tuesday to call DA, because doesn't this mean a bench warrant for my arrest if already not issued is coming? What would there purpose be for doing this? In reality, it was actually not in thier best interest, because my ex husband and I had already agreed he wasn't bringing her back to GA to testify (and we have the psych evidence we would need so it would be REALLY hard for them to force him), but I don't trust my ex enough to not change his mind or succumb to pressure, etc. He never liked this guy anyway! But if they think he's gonna let her come put Mommy in jail - no matter what we have been through, after 19 years, I know he wouldn't do that to me or her.
Just here alone for the holiday (which was bad enough to not be with my kids) and was gonna try to pretend X-mas just didn't exist this year. But now I am worried to death about going to jail. I have had a speeding ticket once - that's it!
Senior judge - if you are still on - I read so many of your posts and have a lot of respect for you - any advice?