What is the name of your state (Florida)
I was living in Florida about a year ago, and met a young woman who misrepresented her age. She told me she was 18, and I was 27. She looks like she could be 21, so it's not like I had any reason to believe otherwise. We had a brief 3 month relationship where there was sexual contact. I then found out her true age, when her father showed up at my house one day to let me know that she was actually 15 and that this wasn't the first time that she had done something like this. He asked for my word that I wouldn't continue the relationship with her, I gave it to him and I let her know that we could no longer see each other. I also live with my sixteen year old sister, who in that time befriended her and would see her from time to time. Looking back on it now I think she only continued the friendship with my sister to try and stay in my life. After I ended the relationship it seemed she did whatever she could to try and get back in my life. There was times where she showed up to my apartment in the middle of the night. I would tell her to go home and she would just stand in front of my door crying. Fearful that the police would come and question her about what was going on, I would then offer her a ride home. I would drop her off in front of her house only for her to show back up at my door step hours later. I would call her mother, and let her know what was going on. The only response I would get from that would be that she would talk to her. Knowing what I know now I shouldn't have expected much from that seeing how her mother is a drug addict, buys drugs for her daughter, and promotes her behavior. Finally one day she ran away from home, and her mother was calling my phone hourly wondering if I had seen her. By this point this girl was literally driving me crazy. She eventually did show up at my house, at which point and time I told her that she was making me insane and that it had to stop. I told her I was calling her mother, and taking her home. She said that she would call herself. Well she lied and pretended to call her mother. While I was getting ready to take her home, her mother called my phone and let me know that she knew she was with me and that a detective would be notifying me soon. At this point I was ready to blow. I told her mother that she had showed up at my house, and that I was sending her home. I took her home, and that was the last time I had seen her. I was so shaken up by the events, and possible criminal action that I saw the only way of completely removing her from my life was to go back home to New York. All of these events transpired over a four to five week period after the relationship ended. Approximately about a month after I left Florida, she called me up to tell me that she was pregnant. I told her that she should have an abortion, not even really knowing if the child was mine. Her and her family replied by saying that they don't believe in abortions. I was also told that as long as I take care of my responsibilities that I wouldn't have to worry about criminal prosecution. That lasted for about a 2 month period before I was issued an ultimatum to come back to Florida to be with her or police would be called and prosecution would be perused. I didn't think it was a good idea for a 28 year old man to come back to be with a 16 year old. (She had turned 16 in the time since, and I 28) So I declined and again stated if the child was mine I would take on my responsibility. That wasn't good enough, and they followed through with their threat. I've had sporadic contact with her over the past seven months, and the baby is due within the next week. I haven't been contacted by any authorities, but I do know that their is a non-arrest investigation open on me. I had my mother contact her mother, and was told that I would be charged with lewd and lascivious conduct with a minor under 16, and that the most time I could do is two years in jail. I'm also really going crazy at this point because I found out that ignorance of age is no defense. I have three other children and believe I am a good father, and would like to continue to be. But if I have to register as a sex offender I don't see how I can do that or even get a job to support them. Can anyone tell me, am I screwed, or is there light at the end of the tunnel? I mean, the state attorney is only hearing her and her families lies and deceit. While I'm going to be stuck with a public defender. I need help. Can anyone tell me if it's out there?
I was living in Florida about a year ago, and met a young woman who misrepresented her age. She told me she was 18, and I was 27. She looks like she could be 21, so it's not like I had any reason to believe otherwise. We had a brief 3 month relationship where there was sexual contact. I then found out her true age, when her father showed up at my house one day to let me know that she was actually 15 and that this wasn't the first time that she had done something like this. He asked for my word that I wouldn't continue the relationship with her, I gave it to him and I let her know that we could no longer see each other. I also live with my sixteen year old sister, who in that time befriended her and would see her from time to time. Looking back on it now I think she only continued the friendship with my sister to try and stay in my life. After I ended the relationship it seemed she did whatever she could to try and get back in my life. There was times where she showed up to my apartment in the middle of the night. I would tell her to go home and she would just stand in front of my door crying. Fearful that the police would come and question her about what was going on, I would then offer her a ride home. I would drop her off in front of her house only for her to show back up at my door step hours later. I would call her mother, and let her know what was going on. The only response I would get from that would be that she would talk to her. Knowing what I know now I shouldn't have expected much from that seeing how her mother is a drug addict, buys drugs for her daughter, and promotes her behavior. Finally one day she ran away from home, and her mother was calling my phone hourly wondering if I had seen her. By this point this girl was literally driving me crazy. She eventually did show up at my house, at which point and time I told her that she was making me insane and that it had to stop. I told her I was calling her mother, and taking her home. She said that she would call herself. Well she lied and pretended to call her mother. While I was getting ready to take her home, her mother called my phone and let me know that she knew she was with me and that a detective would be notifying me soon. At this point I was ready to blow. I told her mother that she had showed up at my house, and that I was sending her home. I took her home, and that was the last time I had seen her. I was so shaken up by the events, and possible criminal action that I saw the only way of completely removing her from my life was to go back home to New York. All of these events transpired over a four to five week period after the relationship ended. Approximately about a month after I left Florida, she called me up to tell me that she was pregnant. I told her that she should have an abortion, not even really knowing if the child was mine. Her and her family replied by saying that they don't believe in abortions. I was also told that as long as I take care of my responsibilities that I wouldn't have to worry about criminal prosecution. That lasted for about a 2 month period before I was issued an ultimatum to come back to Florida to be with her or police would be called and prosecution would be perused. I didn't think it was a good idea for a 28 year old man to come back to be with a 16 year old. (She had turned 16 in the time since, and I 28) So I declined and again stated if the child was mine I would take on my responsibility. That wasn't good enough, and they followed through with their threat. I've had sporadic contact with her over the past seven months, and the baby is due within the next week. I haven't been contacted by any authorities, but I do know that their is a non-arrest investigation open on me. I had my mother contact her mother, and was told that I would be charged with lewd and lascivious conduct with a minor under 16, and that the most time I could do is two years in jail. I'm also really going crazy at this point because I found out that ignorance of age is no defense. I have three other children and believe I am a good father, and would like to continue to be. But if I have to register as a sex offender I don't see how I can do that or even get a job to support them. Can anyone tell me, am I screwed, or is there light at the end of the tunnel? I mean, the state attorney is only hearing her and her families lies and deceit. While I'm going to be stuck with a public defender. I need help. Can anyone tell me if it's out there?
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