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#1
12-17-2008, 08:24 PM
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Planned a Feb. Trip out of the country...What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana I reside in Indiana, as well as my 21 year old son. He had a child when he was 17...he has struggled this whole time to pay support. I planned a family vacation for the whole family out of the Country for February. He is vague with me but he lost his job and was already paying on back support and current support. I do not know how much back support he owes or how long he has been unemployed, he is feverishly searching for a job. I do know he was suppose to appear in court for this and was NOT served a supb. I know this because it was served at his father's home and his father said he didn't live there and the sheriff left. I am sure there is a bench warrant now and my son is scared not having any money...he is actually at poverty level now with nothing. How can he resolve this trouble he has himself in and travel with the family? We have not been allowed to see his daughter for 2 years, they do not return any of our family's phone calls. If he cannot resolve this matter before our vacation and attempts to fly internationally will he be arrested if there is a warrant? He holds a current passport which I paid for him when he was much younger. He has not had a real address to receive any notifications for anything and is more or less homeless, staying here and there. I will not help him pay support, this is his responsibility. Should he even attempt to go on the vacation? It has all been paid for over 8 months ago (I paid for it.) I'm losing sleep over this...I thought we could have a nice family trip. |
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#2
12-17-2008, 08:51 PM
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Why hasn't he seen his child in over two years? Has custody and visitation been decided by the courts? I can only assume he doesn't really want to see his child, since the family not returning phone calls is no reason not to force the issue through the courts. He should go to court and get this warrant issue resolved. There's no use postponing the inevitable as it's not going to go away by itself. If he has known about this vacation for eight months, he has certainly had more than enough time to make sure he doesn't have any legal problems which will interfere with the trip. It doesn't sound like he's been doing much of anything else, so it isn't like he hasn't had the time. If he does go to court I would advise him not to mention this vacation. Because the court will not really care who paid for it. They will not like the fact that someone who is claiming to be in dyer straits, is getting ready to travel abroad for a fun filled vacation, while his child hasn't received any financial assistance from him in quit some time. I'm sure you can understand where this vacation will not look good to the courts.
__________________ If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not turn and bite you for your kindness, but he will stand by your side until death. This is the principal difference between a dog and a man. |
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12-17-2008, 08:52 PM
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your son is going to need to ask his own questions. there is too much information missing here. whether or not son can travel depends on what he wants to do. i understand he is trying to get caught up, but him not seeing his child in 2 years is his own choice. he could have easily done something about that. son should call the Child Support Enforcement and find out if there is a warrant. |
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12-18-2008, 09:56 PM
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| I want to thank you for your input, he did call, he does have a bench warrant for failure to appear to a court date, but did not know about the hearing. I will have to say that none of us have seen her and he does not have monies to take her to court to see his child. Their excuse is he will not see her until he is paid up on support and in full as he is behind. He was ordered to pay child support at 17 while still in High School. My son does not have a lot of means to even make phone calls let alone get on a computer. I am just trying to find information, why? because he's my son and I care for him. He didn't have a lot of guidance regarding this situation, his father and I divorced when he was 4 and we never rec'd a dime of child support and his father begged multiple times for me to let him sign off his rights as a father, which I wouldn't do. He only got to know his father when he turned 13. He has been unemployed for 3 months now, (I believe) which is making him behind on back support and current support. When I planned this vacation all was fine then. The prosecutor told him to come in and turn himself in with 1,005. bond. He doesn't even have 1.05. If he did have this type of money he would be paying support. I'm a mom, I love my son...I'm befuddled.... |
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12-19-2008, 12:31 PM
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| Why isn't your son staying home from the family vacation and working. It would seem to me that as a parent you should demand that your son take responsibility for his actions. He has a child to support ~ he doesn't need to be trampsing around the world when he has mouths to feed. 
__________________ Dang the Persephone for eating those pomegranate seeds. It is because of her urge to snack that we must suffer through the winter that will soon be upon us. |
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12-19-2008, 12:48 PM
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Can my X renew his passport? Nope. Something to do with arrearages. If YOU want the trip to happen, help the son out with his arrearages and clearing the bench warrant.
__________________ If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain. Maya Angelou |
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12-19-2008, 05:27 PM
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| *Just some personal experience* my ex owes over 42 thousand dollars in arrears for CS. We went to court in Feb. he was there, he signed the order stating we would review the case in May, and if he missed one month he would spend 10 days in jail. SIGNED the papers, mind you. he KNEW when court was.. well he didn't show up for court. they issued the warrant(he wasn't paying either, for the record) he got picked up with the warrant stating he was to pay a 1,000 cash bond and 10 days in jail. He got out the NEXT day... without paying a PENNY... all because?? He never got a COPY of the order, telling him when to be back. we don't have court again til Feb. He didn't have to pay the bond b/c he said he didn't have the money. how much are his arrears? He needs to get a job, ANY job, show he is trying. If he walks in front of the judge with proof of a McDonalds job his chances of having a review date set, and walking away are MUCH better than if he sits back and lets it pile up, doing nothing.. You know how my ex ends up with so much arrears?? He doesn't pay for months and months, makes ONE payment, or walks in with "proof" of a new job... and they set a review and let him walk away... he has NEVER spent more than I think 5 days in jail... I have a folder litereally an INCH thick of wage garnishments from jobs my ex has had over the years, b/c every single time we go to court, he has a new job... of course, NO one knows what will happen to your son no one can predict that, but let me reiterate, he has a MUCH better chance of a simple slap on the wrist and an adjustment on his CS to cover the arrears if he makes an effort to show he has a job and is trying. Good luck!!
__________________ Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. Last edited by TNBSMommy; 12-19-2008 at 05:31 PM. |
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#8
12-22-2008, 08:10 AM
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| Once again, Thanks for your input...I will not help him pay his child support, I agree this is his duty, not mine. I will however give him opportunities to go apply for jobs (a car with some gas in it) which he has done. No calls back yet and he is still trying to get a job, any job....McDonald's wasn't even hiring. As for the kind remark of taking him on a family vacation, well it's just that a family vacation which was planned in advance when things were brighter for everyone and the economy wasn't in such a slump. I am washing my hands of this, if he gets things straightened out by then he will go, if not-well, he won't. He wants to turn himself in on the warrant, but wants to have a job and some cash in hand before he does it. I wish him luck, I don't see it happening... Thanks again everyone!  |
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