Probation Violation and Misdemeanors with Ex...

[CLNAC]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

This is about my bf.
He went to jail last summer for 88 days because of his ex-gf. He tried to break in her sister's house to get his clothes, and had a few other charges-aggravated menancing, stalking, telcommunication harassment, etc. His attorney had the charged reduced from felonies to misdemeanors.

He called his ex-gf 2 days after being released last summer-so around Aug or so I think. This violated his probation which he did not check in or pay. Cops came to the house and would bang on the doors, trying to get us to open the door. Eventually the US Marshalls came. He turned himself in June 12th. He has been in jail since then.

His ex gf is known for being a liar, cheater, and a thief. She stole $5000 from his grandma's harassment. She received a letter from her current bf (a deputy sheriff in the other county where charges were filed) at my bf's house while dating him.

His ex filed another restraining order on him while in jail the 19th after the original one had been dropped in Jan. She claims in her statement that he has been harassing her for 5 months and then later on says over a year. She claims he threatens her life and knows her whereabouts, location, and calls her family daily. He did talk to her some online, but it was non-threatening except to a call to her new bf. Her bf Anwar she cheated on my bf with is a deputy sheriff and filed a restraining order on him-failed to show up in court and it was dropped. He also tried to say that my bf punched him in his car while driving. my bf doesn't even own a car. Anwar is friends with everyone in the court-from the prosecutor to others because of his job. They don't believe anything my bf says and believe everything she says he does or says to her.
They say he is in jail in this county for probation violation and calling her.
He is said to have 1 misdemeanor in another county.

Also maybe a wk ago, I received a call on my cell phone. The girl said her name was "Joanna" which I feel might not even be her real name. She kept asking for my bf and I said he wasn't here. She told me "I'll call back later you whore". I have a feeling it was his ex-gf and her friends calling me because I've never heard of this girl and his female friends call the house phone and not my cell phone. Her bf (that I think she still lives with) might know my cell number from the day he blocked it calling when I was in a store. I'd like to trace it-but it was only one call and they called private right before and the call dropped before they said anything.

My questions are:

How bad do you think the punishment will be? His attorney said 1 1/2-2 yrs. in the county for the first one, which I think seems excessive where his other attorney says 9 months max for crimes in both counties.

How can I get the judge to allow him to go to the birth of our baby?

If I call the DA or Prosecutor (on the girl's side), would that help?

Will they credit the time he's doing now (almost a month now) plus the 88 days last summer towards the charges? I heard they will and my bf said they won't count last yr.
Can I prove they are lying to make my bf get punished more?

I was told if I could prove they lying and that she contacted him (like a call on Christmas), that I can get her for defamation of character and that. Yet they said it's only about HIS actions and that she can harass him as much as she wants with phone calls, emails, driving by the house, etc.

Is there anyway I can prove the cop's connections make this unfair?


They also said my bf is under investigation. He sold items that didn't exist on his ex's account and sent the money to his account and other items he sold and sent the money to my account. But I read online today they have to catch it quit or the IP address info will be wiped out and the way I think it would be is they prob. go after the people with the worst criminal history and highest dollar amt. 1st, they said if u go 7 yrs and don't hear anything you are wiped clean

Is there anyway I could pay bail? I think for the one court it's like $100K ($10K) and $20K ($2K) but we don't have the money for it....and if I can bail him out-is there anyway I can avoid or find out about the "investigation" in the other county to see what's going on?


Someone please help! He has 2 attorneys (one for each county). I want him to be able to see the birth and get him out so he can help with the baby, but they don't seem to care.
So I guess they don't care about me being alone with a baby living with his family who makes little over minimum wage?


Thanks so much!!!

[BL]

I read about 2/3 rds of you ramblings .
YOU can not do anything about your BF and the birth of the child .
He's going to do time for the violation . He should be credited for the time He served .

If someone is harassing you , the file a complaint .

If the cops are familiar with you and your boyfriend , don't count on much help , as you are involved with a guy that seems to want to break laws and get into trouble .

[CLNAC]

I read about 2/3 rds of you ramblings .
YOU can not do anything about your BF and the birth of the child .
He's going to do time for the violation . He should be credited for the time He served .

If someone is harassing you , the file a complaint .

If the cops are familiar with you and your boyfriend , don't count on much help , as you are involved with a guy that seems to want to break laws and get into trouble .
Today 02:57 AM


Hmm how much time do you think. That's good-do you mean from last yr and the time he is doing now waiting to go to court?
Over one phone call though? I'd have to have the lawyer look up the records on my cell phone.
They are friends with his ex's boyfriend because he's a cop, so it's bias and unfair to us-but what can you do?

[BL]

Yes the one phone call after 2 days after his release violated him , plain and simple .

Quit trying to make excuses for him , and no they don't care about his life with you .

Ya do the crime , ya do the time . Maybe after 2/3 rds of his sentence he could apply for parole .

[CLNAC]

Originally Posted by Blonde Lebinese

Yes the one phone call after 2 days after his release violated him , plain and simple .

Quit trying to make excuses for him , and no they don't care about his life with you .

Ya do the crime , ya do the time . Maybe after 2/3 rds of his sentence he could apply for parole .

Yes I understand that, I'm not making excuses. They should care about the welfare of our child though. And without him home, it will be hard to go back to school or work without anyone to watch the baby.
Hmmm that's an idea. Thanks, I'll check into that.

[acmb05]

Originally Posted by CLNAC

Yes I understand that, I'm not making excuses. They should care about the welfare of our child though. And without him home, it will be hard to go back to school or work without anyone to watch the baby.
Hmmm that's an idea. Thanks, I'll check into that.

Hmmmm maybe if he cared about the welfare of his child he would not have violated his probation by calling his ex girlfriend while you were prego's with his child.

And you are making excuses for him. In your first post you said it was her fault.

Your bf is an idiot for trying to break in to his ex girlfriends home, and an even bigger idiot for then violating his probation and not checking in or paying his probation costs.

Find a new boyfriend cause this one is a loser.

[CLNAC]

Originally Posted by acmb05

Hmmmm maybe if he cared about the welfare of his child he would not have violated his probation by calling his ex girlfriend while you were prego's with his child.

And you are making excuses for him. In your first post you said it was her fault.

Your bf is an idiot for trying to break in to his ex girlfriends home, and an even bigger idiot for then violating his probation and not checking in or paying his probation costs.

Find a new boyfriend cause this one is a loser.

The thing is he didn't call her. He IMed her to try to get her help to drop the charges but he was never threatening and most of the charges were before he met me.
It is her fault since she is making up lies and fabricating things to get him in trouble. And her bf is making up lies too.
I'm not gonna find another bf, I came to the forum for honest help in getting him out.
Thanks much...

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by CLNAC

The thing is he didn't call her. He IMed her to try to get her help to drop the charges but he was never threatening and most of the charges were before he met me.
It is her fault since she is making up lies and fabricating things to get him in trouble. And her bf is making up lies too.
I'm not gonna find another bf, I came to the forum for honest help in getting him out.
Thanks much...

THAT IS CONTACT! COntact will do it if there is a no-contact order in place. Doesn't matter if he was threatening or not. And it is NOT her fault. It is your bf's fault. The reason being HE BROKE INTO A HOUSE -- doesn't matter his reasons but he did it. You are making a lot of excuses for him.
As others have said, apparently he is not that concerned with his child with you that he is still harrassing his ex.

[acmb05]

Originally Posted by CLNAC

The thing is he didn't call her. He IMed her to try to get her help to drop the charges but he was never threatening and most of the charges were before he met me.
It is her fault since she is making up lies and fabricating things to get him in trouble. And her bf is making up lies too.
I'm not gonna find another bf, I came to the forum for honest help in getting him out.
Thanks much...

Oh my god girl you really got it bad. If he was already on probation and had a no contact order that means he already went to court and was found guilty or plead guilty and was sentenced, which means it is way to late to ask her to drop the charges.

Get a clue, he is playing you like a fiddle.