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jane_doe
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What is the name of your state?TX
Hi, I'm not really sure if this is the right forum to post this in, but here goes:
about 2 years ago, I was in a terrible fight with my soon to be ex husband. I could never find the strength to fight back before this incident ( it was a very abusive marriage) because I loved him so much. Sounds really stupid now. I never called the police before either. Anyway, this one incident he had been drinking and taken some sort of drug, and I was at a friends house. He came over , dragged me out by my hair, once i was outside I ran , he tried to run me over in his truck, and it just escalated from there. He was like a madman, I didn't even know who he was. I fought back this time. His parents drove to our house and picked him up and took him back to their house ( at my request). He called the next morning and said he was coming back, and I was scared. I called the police to come and pick me up. I got my dog and threw a few clothes in a suitcase and started walking down the road ( i was afraid he would show up before the police). The deputy picked me up, and I don't remember why but we went back to my house. When we got there he was there with his parents. The deputy took a statement from me, then went up to the house to take a statement from him. Neither of us pressed charges....jump forward to almost a year ago, I called the police department to find out about the records the had of the incident, and all they could tell me was that he was listed as the victim. I don't know why. I only fought back in self-defense. I guess maybe his injuries where worse than mine. Ok , my question is this: since no charges were pressed, will this show up in a background check? I have a job lined up and they are going to run a background criminal check on me. I am so scared. If this does show up in a background check is there anyway I can get the report changed? I would like to add that I know there are men who are abused by their wives and I truly feel bad for them because of the lack of support they recieve, but this is definitely NOT the case here. Any advice / comments are welcome. TIA.
Hi, I'm not really sure if this is the right forum to post this in, but here goes:
about 2 years ago, I was in a terrible fight with my soon to be ex husband. I could never find the strength to fight back before this incident ( it was a very abusive marriage) because I loved him so much. Sounds really stupid now. I never called the police before either. Anyway, this one incident he had been drinking and taken some sort of drug, and I was at a friends house. He came over , dragged me out by my hair, once i was outside I ran , he tried to run me over in his truck, and it just escalated from there. He was like a madman, I didn't even know who he was. I fought back this time. His parents drove to our house and picked him up and took him back to their house ( at my request). He called the next morning and said he was coming back, and I was scared. I called the police to come and pick me up. I got my dog and threw a few clothes in a suitcase and started walking down the road ( i was afraid he would show up before the police). The deputy picked me up, and I don't remember why but we went back to my house. When we got there he was there with his parents. The deputy took a statement from me, then went up to the house to take a statement from him. Neither of us pressed charges....jump forward to almost a year ago, I called the police department to find out about the records the had of the incident, and all they could tell me was that he was listed as the victim. I don't know why. I only fought back in self-defense. I guess maybe his injuries where worse than mine. Ok , my question is this: since no charges were pressed, will this show up in a background check? I have a job lined up and they are going to run a background criminal check on me. I am so scared. If this does show up in a background check is there anyway I can get the report changed? I would like to add that I know there are men who are abused by their wives and I truly feel bad for them because of the lack of support they recieve, but this is definitely NOT the case here. Any advice / comments are welcome. TIA.