Racer72, thank you for your input. I have called a few auto body shops about getting an estimate for replacing a bumper, but they all say it is illegal for them to do so without seeing a physical car, which I don't have to show them. I talked to the King County Small claims court today and she said (she is a secretary, not a judge or such) it is up to the judge to decide if a monetary claim above and beyond the property-damage claim is valid or not...it is up to the judge to decide whether or not "time and hassle" is valid for financial reimbursement. Maybe she doesn't know what she is talking about, or maybe there are gray areas to this rule. The person who hit me said he filed for bankruptcy yesterday and should be on record today. When I called the bankruptcy court, they must have been out to lunch, as there was no answer, so I will have to wait till Monday for the answer. Unfortunately, I did list myself as a creditor on his bankruptcy...I don't know if there is a way to remove myself from the list or not.
I think my strongest point in this case is the fact that the person who hit me did not have car insurance. In Washington state, the insurance follows the car, so the owner of the car I was driving should have had his insurance pay for the damages. When asked about this, he balked, saying that that would make him at-fault for the accident, which he strongly refuses. He doesn't see that making a claim on your own insurance doesn't automatically make you at fault for something...I don't get his logic. The car was a 1991 Ford Taurus that he traded in. Even though it is not a 12+ year old car, the trade in difference should be little. Instead of making an insurance claim or going after the other guy, he has decided to sue me. When the accident first happened, he was very nice and said (unfortunately I don't have this in writing) that he did not want any money from me. He said this several times and now I am being sued by him.
I have another question:
Is there a legal way (what I've tried hasn't worked) to get an estimate either for the cost of repair of the bumper or for the trade-in difference value? Would this "theoretical estimate" be valid evidence in court or merely for my own reference?