get the heck out?!

[trd0505]

What is the name of your state? AR

I am seeking the answer to a question that I probably already know the answer to, however, i thought I would check anyways.
My Boyfriend and I are currently looking to buy a house. I am 27 years old he is 25 we have lived together for 4 years.
We have discussed buying, however, we don't want both of our names listed on the title or the mortgage. We have been together for 5 years, nonetheless, neither of us seem to be the marrying type, and i don't mean "right now" I mean FOREVER.
However, my question being, if i were to purchase this house (in my name only) and we were to live in it together, we would still split costs accordingly throughout the entire process, much like we do now in our current living arrangements......so how would he go about protecting himself from me just throwing him out on his behind? or how can I be certain he is to pay for his share? (not that this is something i forsee, i simply want to make sure all grounds are covered) is there possibly any legal contract that can bind him to payment to me or towards the house? or anything that can state he is a resident of the home as well and is entitled to what's in it?

Any info would be great and it is truly appreciated.
Thank you!

[acmb05]

Originally Posted by trd0505

What is the name of your state? AR

I am seeking the answer to a question that I probably already know the answer to, however, i thought I would check anyways.
My Boyfriend and I are currently looking to buy a house. I am 27 years old he is 25 we have lived together for 4 years.
We have discussed buying, however, we don't want both of our names listed on the title or the mortgage. We have been together for 5 years, nonetheless, neither of us seem to be the marrying type, and i don't mean "right now" I mean FOREVER.
However, my question being, if i were to purchase this house (in my name only) and we were to live in it together, we would still split costs accordingly throughout the entire process, much like we do now in our current living arrangements......so how would he go about protecting himself from me just throwing him out on his behind? or how can I be certain he is to pay for his share? (not that this is something i forsee, i simply want to make sure all grounds are covered) is there possibly any legal contract that can bind him to payment to me or towards the house? or anything that can state he is a resident of the home as well and is entitled to what's in it?

Any info would be great and it is truly appreciated.
Thank you!

Yep. You can have him sign a lease to stay there with the monthly rent and other expense outlined in the lease.

[BelizeBreeze]

Tell your boyfriend to come to this site so I can bitch-slap him. He would be an idiot to live in this type of arrangment.

[You Are Guilty]

Simple solution. Put the house in his name, and you pay 50% of the expenses, and then you won't have to worry about your throwing him out on his behind.

[trd0505]

either way would be fine, his name or mine....no matter who's name is the house is in....we are both going to protect ourselves from the unseen.

[You Are Guilty]

The point you're missing here is that only a moron would pay for something he doesn't have an ownership interest in. It's like me leasing an apartment and then spending $25k of my own money to renovate the kitchen.

There are different "forms" of ownership, one of which may be suitable to your situation. I'd strongly suggest you and your pushover boyfriend each see separate attorneys and work out the details before you buy anything. It will be a LOT cheaper to do so beforehand. Trust me.

[FarmerJ]

If your never going to marry him WHY dont you use the links up top to locate a atty who has done domestic partnership agreements for gay or lesbian couples? The same basic types of agreements could cover a variety of subjects including agreements for property division if the relationship ends. A number of situations could be addressed , like what you want to happen to the house should you become a parent with your partner regarding the home should you die. A domestic partnership agreement and wills could help make things easier than fighting about things later. Your partner might not want to marry you but a partnership agreement might be all it takes to assist your relationship lasting many many years and even though its not perfect , it may help your partner feel like there is just another reason to stay in relationship and feel committed to something even if not married. Other wise ask your bf to sign a lease and remember that when the time comes you will be expected to treat him as a tenant by your states laws and your going to have to maintain records of who paid for what and when. Because later on with out written agreements then there could be fighting.

[trd0505]

that's exactly what i was inquiring about.....so i thank you for your response.
he is not going to take it personally, nor would I if he happened to do the same.
It seems anymore that something of this nature is taken so personally, when it shouldn't be.
I just want to be protected from unforseen circumstances, so that if anything were to occur down the road somewhere, we've covered our bases on both sides of the field, this isn't only for me but for him as well.

[lcannister]

I just want to be protected from unforseen circumstances, so that if anything were to occur down the road somewhere, we've covered our bases on both sides of the field, this isn't only for me but for him as well.

Then go see an Atty who can advise you BOTH or how to properly draw up the paperwork.

As an aside I think you should both move on with your lives as there is no true relationship of trust, commitment and HONESTY here thus you have NOTHING.

I do not say this because you want to protect your interests but the rest of your posts.