jennifer taylor
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama
hello.
my husband and i live in Texas but his son lives in Alabama. he has a 17 year old and 15 year old from a previous marriage. We always assumed that at age 18, his son would be able to make his own choices, but discovered recently that in Alabama the age is 19. My question is there any way around this? The mom has always favored the daughter and doesnt try to hide it from anyone including the son. she has basically turned the daughter away from us-that is another story.
We have tried to get custody since he was 4-we moved to Texas when he was 8. Without making this too long, every lawyer we have talked to has said they won't take the case because the child can't decide in the State of Alabama and the mom does just enough-feeds him, clothes him, no drugs or alcohol, makes sure he is in school...she enjoys the power she has over all of us-especially her ex. She is always good about letting us visit them when we come to Alabama (which is about every 3 months) For Christmas and during the Summer he comes here. but when it comes to moving here-even when we have said we would continue to pay the same amount of child support to her if she would let us have him here, she says NO. Several times she has said she was considering it, only at the last minute to change her mind(after everything has been set up, of course)
He will graduate from highschool in 2012. then the plan was he would come here and start college in the fall...he will still be 18. Can Mom stop this? If he is enrolled in college, would the courts really stop him from coming? we are worried that he will run away-normally he is a really good kid. We would be able to give him the support that he needs and craves.
Very frustrating to be a Dad(and stepmom) and have to deal with these crazy laws in Alabama. in other states we would have him by now, because he could tell the judge where he would like to live and why.
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you!
hello.
my husband and i live in Texas but his son lives in Alabama. he has a 17 year old and 15 year old from a previous marriage. We always assumed that at age 18, his son would be able to make his own choices, but discovered recently that in Alabama the age is 19. My question is there any way around this? The mom has always favored the daughter and doesnt try to hide it from anyone including the son. she has basically turned the daughter away from us-that is another story.
We have tried to get custody since he was 4-we moved to Texas when he was 8. Without making this too long, every lawyer we have talked to has said they won't take the case because the child can't decide in the State of Alabama and the mom does just enough-feeds him, clothes him, no drugs or alcohol, makes sure he is in school...she enjoys the power she has over all of us-especially her ex. She is always good about letting us visit them when we come to Alabama (which is about every 3 months) For Christmas and during the Summer he comes here. but when it comes to moving here-even when we have said we would continue to pay the same amount of child support to her if she would let us have him here, she says NO. Several times she has said she was considering it, only at the last minute to change her mind(after everything has been set up, of course)
He will graduate from highschool in 2012. then the plan was he would come here and start college in the fall...he will still be 18. Can Mom stop this? If he is enrolled in college, would the courts really stop him from coming? we are worried that he will run away-normally he is a really good kid. We would be able to give him the support that he needs and craves.
Very frustrating to be a Dad(and stepmom) and have to deal with these crazy laws in Alabama. in other states we would have him by now, because he could tell the judge where he would like to live and why.
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you!
