What is the name of your state? California
Mom and I are not married and I am going through the process to confirm or establish Paternity (that was covered in another post). Currently the kids live with mom. I am about a 45 minute drive to them.
My question today is what are my chances of getting 50% physical custody of our two children? Do I need to move to the same neighborhood?
Currently I am very involved with all activities with the kids. I am with them every weekend and watch them a few night a week while mom is at school. Another night a week I take them to music lessons and participate with them (mom comes too). I also, take my kids to all doctor appointments (twice a week for my son's allergy shots) and attend all school meetings (our son has learning issues).Mom does not go to any of these. I have to sign the kids out at their after school program. Should I be getting copies of these sheets each month to show my involvement? I am the only parent involved with our son as it relates to his health and learning and our son does have a learning disability.
Mom is involved with morning activities such as feeding and getting them to school. I feel I am very involved but still have concerns of only seeing them once a week or every other week if mom gets her way.
My father, who divorced when I was 5, gave me the advice that a judge will award the kids to mom except every other weekend. This comes out to 14% of the time. This is how it was when he got divorced in the early 70's and he tells me it's still the same, mom gets preference.
I want to continue my involvement as much as possible with the kids and I don't trust mom will give them the same level of attention I have when it comes to medical and educational issues. Historically she has not done this.
My last question is about my chances of getting more than 50% physical custody. What do I have to show the court. My guess is she will fight even 50% physical custody so more than that will be a major battle.