CJane
Senior Member
I think Stealth's question was more along the lines of wondering why you're a stranger to the school - why haven't you been a presence in the child's educational life? These are people that spend more time with your child than you or your ex do, and you're apparently a stranger to them.Because mom has always provided me with copies of school stuff (report cards, etc.), and has always kept me up to date on daughter's activities. Up until now, there was really no reason for me to request anything from them. I always assumed that I was listed as "dad" on her school forms because I had no reason to believe otherwise. Obviously, that was a mistake.
Even when my ex was playing shenanigans with the kids' enrollment paperwork and medical stuff, it never had the effect desired by him because I was a near-daily presence at school, volunteered when I could, went to conferences, was involved in the community, etc. Every member of the faculty and staff (from superintendent to custodians) knew me on sight. There was nothing ex could do to "erase" me from their lives because I made myself an institution, and he ended up looking like a petulant child.