Your ex's mother is NOT bound by the divorce decree or parenting plan. Nor is the uncle. Your ex would be bound by it but if her mom allows uncle there then your ex either won't see HER child at her residence OR will be forced to move.
The original plan was made in Feb. of 09.
The person who I do not want around my son is her Uncle. He is a 40 something year old schizophrenic who does not take his meds properly. (this is document in several police reports) He has started stuff with the neighbors where my son goes to visit and has had the cops out due to fights with the neighbors. My ex has said she is afraid of him and has even written that in the police reports. He says and acts inappropriately around my son. He had been arrested and charged with domestic battery 3 times this year and violated the restraing order. My ex lives with her mother who allows him to stay there when he gets kicked out of his girlfriends houses for beating them. He has hit women in my sons presence.
Are you willing to forgo beer/alcohol when your child is with you?
My ex has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. This is the reason she lost custody of our son. She has had the cops called out numerous times for domestic battery and suicide attempts. These incidents occur when she drinks and takes drugs. It has been almost 7 months since she has had the cops called on her. I want to make sure it stays this way for the safety of our son!
Something in writing is not going to stop it necessarily. It will give you a reason to go to back court for contempt.
I want something in writing that says she in not doing drugs or drinking in the presence of my son. (I do not drink or do drugs period!)
And if someone ELSE allows uncle around the son? The neighbors for instance? You can't hold it against your ex if uncle is at the neighbor's house.
I want in writing that she will not allow her Uncle around my son.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
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