Adoption of a stepchild,RE to all
It is better to be silent and be thought a fool,than to open your mouth and remove all doubt!!! This is to all of you who opened your mouth without knowing any of the details!The dead beat dad DOES NOT have any kind of relationship with her! DOES NOT pay childsupport(his moyher does)! DOES NOT pick her up,AND has NEVER paid a dime for her! She was with him one year and NEVER once changed a diaper,NEVER once fed her,NEVER once took her to a doctor when she was sick!Infact my wife's grandmother had to drive 23 miles to pick her up and take her to the hospital so she could give birth!Even though there was 3 people,three vehicles,that didn't want to get out(said you can wait til lator)! I've cared for her since she was 1 and have paid ALL her doctor bills(even though he's supposed to have ins.on her),I've bought a new Home for my family,I take her places and she calls me "Her bestest dad".I'm honest with her,explaining I am her step dad and it's up to her,only her,what she wants to call me.She calls him by his first name.We've taken her to counceling because of sexual abuse while she was out there,the state has a video tape of her telling them that his moms been touching her.Iv'e spent over 2,000.00 in court,but the courts say it's not 'enough of an outcry'!The fact that my wife had a child by another man has never been an issue.She and her daughter had been abandon one year when I met her.I took her as my wife and her little girl as my own!Iv'e never been selfish and have spent every dime I've made for the past three years providing for them!They come FIRST!And as for 'My Rights",we went through the courts and the Judge declared "In the best intrest of the child,full custody goes to the mother AND the childs stepfather.I was the issue there and proved without a doubt she was better off with me,his mother was wanting custody(not him),and used him to try to get her.I had 20 people sigh statements on my behalf,and most of them have read what some of you have wrote and have called me,laughing!What you think of me has NO merit on my intentions,I will do whatever it takes to keep my daughter safe at all times!! Before the abuse I asked him to pick her up whenever he wanted to spend time with her,never once did! Now that he still has limited visitation rights,I am worried only something very harmful will be 'enough of an outcry'to show the court she's in danger.I just pray it's not something that will effect her for the rest of her life,something that can never be undone! This is all about her safety and wellbeing,nothing else matters!