What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado
My son's father and I have shared custody. The court order states that our son is to spend Monday through Thursday nights with his father and Friday through Sunday nights with me. Let me add, this is the custody arangement that his father requested. I wanted 5-2-2-5, but it was decided that it would be less chaotic for our son, with more consistent time with each parent.
I am having two different issues with this. First being, that EVERY single weekend, for at least the last 6-8 weeks, Dad has been requesting time on the weekend with our son. For reasons varying from taking him to a bike show, going to dinner with friends, birthday parties. I have consistently said no. Reasons being, that my son and I usually have plans, I don't want the constant interruptions in my time with my son, and also, the fact is that this visitation schedule is what HE wanted. I think he might have some regrets because now he doesn't have any weekend time, but frankly, I feel that that is his problem to deal with now. When ex's Dad (son's Grandfather) showed up in town (he is a truck driver), I did let my son spend the night with his Dad and I got make up time, that Monday n,ight.
Dad is getting angrier and angrier, saying that I am being unreasonable and that he is going to take me back to court for "not working with him." My response so far has been, "good luck with that." I do not feel that I am doing anything wrong in exercising all my court ordered time with our son. Is it possible that this could be viewed in a negative light by the judge?
My second issue is that because Dad works, our son is in child care from 8am--5pm, Monday through Thursdays. I don't work, so I pick him up at 2:30pm-3pm on Fridays. I have told ex that I am going to start picking our son up at the same time on Mondays and that I will bring our son to him by 6pm on Mondays. Again, all the court order states is "Monday nights through Thursday with Dad and Friday through Sunday with Mom." I feel that this is a good comprimise to our son not spending all day, everday in child care. Our son is 4 and in pre-school now and will be in kindergarden next year. With this arrangement, our son will only have to go to After School Care 3 days a week, versus 5. I don't feel like I am breaking the court order in anyway. Our son will be with me, Friday afternoon through Monday evening and with his Dad, Monday through Friday morning.
Am I doing anything that could be considered contempt or custodial interference? I truly do not feel that I am! His Dad is mad because I put my foot down regarding his girlfriend's interference and because he is a bully that intimidated me for a long time. I know longer feel intimidated or afraid and I think he is viewing me exercising my rights, as contempt or custodial interference. He is also angry because I have requested child support through CSE. There was no order for child support for either of us at the final hearing.
Am I wrong? I was the doormat and peacemaker in this relationship for a long time and it didn't work. I'm always willing to be reasonable and talk things out, but he refuses. Should I be concerned?
My son's father and I have shared custody. The court order states that our son is to spend Monday through Thursday nights with his father and Friday through Sunday nights with me. Let me add, this is the custody arangement that his father requested. I wanted 5-2-2-5, but it was decided that it would be less chaotic for our son, with more consistent time with each parent.
I am having two different issues with this. First being, that EVERY single weekend, for at least the last 6-8 weeks, Dad has been requesting time on the weekend with our son. For reasons varying from taking him to a bike show, going to dinner with friends, birthday parties. I have consistently said no. Reasons being, that my son and I usually have plans, I don't want the constant interruptions in my time with my son, and also, the fact is that this visitation schedule is what HE wanted. I think he might have some regrets because now he doesn't have any weekend time, but frankly, I feel that that is his problem to deal with now. When ex's Dad (son's Grandfather) showed up in town (he is a truck driver), I did let my son spend the night with his Dad and I got make up time, that Monday n,ight.
Dad is getting angrier and angrier, saying that I am being unreasonable and that he is going to take me back to court for "not working with him." My response so far has been, "good luck with that." I do not feel that I am doing anything wrong in exercising all my court ordered time with our son. Is it possible that this could be viewed in a negative light by the judge?
My second issue is that because Dad works, our son is in child care from 8am--5pm, Monday through Thursdays. I don't work, so I pick him up at 2:30pm-3pm on Fridays. I have told ex that I am going to start picking our son up at the same time on Mondays and that I will bring our son to him by 6pm on Mondays. Again, all the court order states is "Monday nights through Thursday with Dad and Friday through Sunday with Mom." I feel that this is a good comprimise to our son not spending all day, everday in child care. Our son is 4 and in pre-school now and will be in kindergarden next year. With this arrangement, our son will only have to go to After School Care 3 days a week, versus 5. I don't feel like I am breaking the court order in anyway. Our son will be with me, Friday afternoon through Monday evening and with his Dad, Monday through Friday morning.
Am I doing anything that could be considered contempt or custodial interference? I truly do not feel that I am! His Dad is mad because I put my foot down regarding his girlfriend's interference and because he is a bully that intimidated me for a long time. I know longer feel intimidated or afraid and I think he is viewing me exercising my rights, as contempt or custodial interference. He is also angry because I have requested child support through CSE. There was no order for child support for either of us at the final hearing.
Am I wrong? I was the doormat and peacemaker in this relationship for a long time and it didn't work. I'm always willing to be reasonable and talk things out, but he refuses. Should I be concerned?