A year ago today my sister gave birth to twin daughters. Less than 24 hours later she past out, went into a coma. I applied for emergency custody and received temporary custody for 6 months. When the case was up for review I received full custody of them.
Before all this happened my sister explained she was not exactly sure her boyfriend was the father and that he was waiting with money in hand to get a paternity test. However, when she took ill he stated to my brother he didn't care whether they were his or not.
However, over the past year I have been greatly distrubed as he's made no effort to know them, call to check up on them, or visit them. When I would call him and check up on my sister's condition and try to tell him about the girls he would say "I know they are ok i'm just going to concentrate on their mom". I've tried to take into consideration as over the past year he sat by her bedside all while she was in a coma and played a tremendous part in helping her overcome some of her disability. He made her last days happy ones.
However, during all this time when I took the babies weekly (2 hours away) to see her he made no attempt to touch them or get to know them. I finally had to take one of them and put them in his arms each time I came. I understand him wanting to focus on my sister but a little affection toward the girls would now be expecting too much.
During this time I received tanf for them from social services. They also pursued establishing paternity starting January 2002. He elected to take a paternity test (I fully agree with if one has doubt) which extended the court process but he didn't want my sister to know. The children were found to be his on Sept 16, 2002. He was told he had to pay back money from January 2002 since he elected to take the test and he has to pay a substantial amount of child support monthly for each child. Ironically 3 hours later (2 hours away) my sister past out and died. It was a shock to all of us as she had made some landmark progess.
Making a long story short my sister's best friend called me to tell me he has plans to come get them in 2 weeks. I'm baffled as he's made no effort to tell me and we don't have any bad blood between us. I will say I'm opposed because he's not able to take care of them. He works and sometimes has to travel. I also think he wants them only because he thinks it will save money on child support. Today is their birthday and they turned 1 year old and still no call for that, to see how they are doing since their mom's death, etc. However, if he insist on pursuing custody will he have to petition the court where he lives (2 hours away) which is the original place that awarded me custody or will he have to petition in my area since they've lived here almost a year? What are his chances of getting twin 12 months olds girls that he's never visited dispite the many invitations we've made? He has stated to my sister's best friend he will hire someone to take care of them. My husband, daughter (19 years) and myself having had them since birth and been their caregiving every since.