What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
Dad has 3 kids for six weeks of the summer ending this Sun night. Dad called me up and said the kids missed me and they wanted to spend the day with me.
I kept kids until 6pm when I assumed he would then be home from work. Kids tell me that their dad is working and they don't want to go home until he is there.
I explain to kids that this is his time and we agreed on this end of story. If they were upset then they needed to speak with their dad but we had agreed on this ahead of time.
When I drop them off only step mom is home and this is usually the case.
Parenting plan states when one parent is not available the other shall be the babysitter of choice. When I bring this up with dad he states that his wife does not count and it is his time and he will do what he wants. I have tried to reason with him and we have been though years of counceling as well. Nothing anyone says changes his mind on this.
I always use him as sitter for the kids if I am not home, but I am lucky to be there everyday due to my work schedule and rarely need it. He on the other hand works full time and goes to school part time. He is almost never home and the kids know that I am. They ask to come to my house while he is working and they are told no by dad and step mom. (on a side note it is dad that tells me that he has told them no and not my children).
I have talked to lawyers and many others stating that babysitter of choice is difficult to enforce, but it seems silly to have it in a plan if you can't enforce it.
What is the best way to deal with this without causing massive problems.
Dad has 3 kids for six weeks of the summer ending this Sun night. Dad called me up and said the kids missed me and they wanted to spend the day with me.
I kept kids until 6pm when I assumed he would then be home from work. Kids tell me that their dad is working and they don't want to go home until he is there.
I explain to kids that this is his time and we agreed on this end of story. If they were upset then they needed to speak with their dad but we had agreed on this ahead of time.
When I drop them off only step mom is home and this is usually the case.
Parenting plan states when one parent is not available the other shall be the babysitter of choice. When I bring this up with dad he states that his wife does not count and it is his time and he will do what he wants. I have tried to reason with him and we have been though years of counceling as well. Nothing anyone says changes his mind on this.
I always use him as sitter for the kids if I am not home, but I am lucky to be there everyday due to my work schedule and rarely need it. He on the other hand works full time and goes to school part time. He is almost never home and the kids know that I am. They ask to come to my house while he is working and they are told no by dad and step mom. (on a side note it is dad that tells me that he has told them no and not my children).
I have talked to lawyers and many others stating that babysitter of choice is difficult to enforce, but it seems silly to have it in a plan if you can't enforce it.
What is the best way to deal with this without causing massive problems.