*Strategically* you should be annoyed, not outraged and lashing at strangers. And *documenting* the denial of parenting time so that your lawyer has something to show a judge. Because if you are calm and patient and have the *documentation*, and appear totally *reasonable*, then if by contrast your ex appears to be unreasonable, a judge might get irritated more with her than you. *That's* when your lawyer might be successful at changing custody.
*You're* the one who mentioned the cost of amusement park tickets going to waste.
I get it: you don't like your ex and her parenting style is very different from yours. If you two got along so swimmingly she wouldn't be an ex.
None of us needed an example of how you communicate with your child - legally, it's irrelevant.
And, don't even *think* that any of your child's fears are instilled by mom - because if you're posting it here, you've probably said it in earshot of the kid. Big no-no. (If Mom were here, I'd tell her that too.)