rouschkateer
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania
Hello, all.
I have 3 children aged 14, 13 and 11. My ex-husband and I divorced over 2 years ago because of his mental instability and drug(s) addiction. Over the course of more than 10 years he has been addicted to marijuana, coke, speed, meth, methadone, prescription painkillers, heroin and "huffing." He has been in and out of rehab many, many times, and has been admitted both voluntarily and involuntarily to mental institutions for spans of a few weeks at a time. He was also part of Methadone clinics for heroin addiction, which he abused and was removed from being able to participate in.
Over the course of the past few months, he was imprisoned for a car accident in which he wrecked a car following a huffing episode (December). He served a month's time and was released. He then this past week overdosed on heroin (he actually died - the hospital staff revived him). I was not notified of this and on the weekend, when he was supposed to come pick up his children for a birthday party, he never arrived. After his parents picking them up, I came to find out AFTER the children came home (and was told the story by my children, not the grandparents!) that their father was in another car accident after inhaling again.
Now he is in a temporary rehabilitation facility again - after a week's time, he will be released. Afterwards, he is supposedly going to his parent's house until he finds a "halfway" or recovery home (isn't he supposed to go to jail? LOL - different thread, I guess).
I DO NOT want my children around this anymore. My 14 year old is disgusted and saddened, as is my 11 year old. My 13 year old still holds hope for him, however. I called and told his parents I WILL NOT allow him to see or speak to the children anymore. I want HIM to have to prove to ME that he is stable enough for visitation.
No, there is NO court order for visitation. The only stipulation by court is a Domestic Relations child support stipulation. He is 100% up to date on his payments (they come out of his SSD checks).
So, now to the question - of course when I take him to court the burden of proof will be on me. I will have to prove that he was in and out of the mental institutions, rehabs, clinics, etc....or is it? If I do take him to court, will THE COURTS ask for the father to retrieve his own medical records?
I just would like to know ahead of time, and I will also monitor this to see if I need to supply any additional answers.
I am not looking for sympathy, only reality.
Thank you all very much in advance.
Hello, all.
I have 3 children aged 14, 13 and 11. My ex-husband and I divorced over 2 years ago because of his mental instability and drug(s) addiction. Over the course of more than 10 years he has been addicted to marijuana, coke, speed, meth, methadone, prescription painkillers, heroin and "huffing." He has been in and out of rehab many, many times, and has been admitted both voluntarily and involuntarily to mental institutions for spans of a few weeks at a time. He was also part of Methadone clinics for heroin addiction, which he abused and was removed from being able to participate in.
Over the course of the past few months, he was imprisoned for a car accident in which he wrecked a car following a huffing episode (December). He served a month's time and was released. He then this past week overdosed on heroin (he actually died - the hospital staff revived him). I was not notified of this and on the weekend, when he was supposed to come pick up his children for a birthday party, he never arrived. After his parents picking them up, I came to find out AFTER the children came home (and was told the story by my children, not the grandparents!) that their father was in another car accident after inhaling again.
Now he is in a temporary rehabilitation facility again - after a week's time, he will be released. Afterwards, he is supposedly going to his parent's house until he finds a "halfway" or recovery home (isn't he supposed to go to jail? LOL - different thread, I guess).
I DO NOT want my children around this anymore. My 14 year old is disgusted and saddened, as is my 11 year old. My 13 year old still holds hope for him, however. I called and told his parents I WILL NOT allow him to see or speak to the children anymore. I want HIM to have to prove to ME that he is stable enough for visitation.
No, there is NO court order for visitation. The only stipulation by court is a Domestic Relations child support stipulation. He is 100% up to date on his payments (they come out of his SSD checks).
So, now to the question - of course when I take him to court the burden of proof will be on me. I will have to prove that he was in and out of the mental institutions, rehabs, clinics, etc....or is it? If I do take him to court, will THE COURTS ask for the father to retrieve his own medical records?
I just would like to know ahead of time, and I will also monitor this to see if I need to supply any additional answers.
I am not looking for sympathy, only reality.
Thank you all very much in advance.
