In the same boat
Hi,
I live in AR and i to am in the same boat as your ex wife. However the difference is, my ex has hardly nothing at all to do with our four children. He is so wrapped up in his new wife whome he left us for and her children that he may have contact with the kids once a month, and has only kept them over night one time since May 18th of last yr. It breaks my heart to see when a parent rather mother or father does what they can to keep a child from the other parent. I can understand it if that other parent is causeing some type of harm to the child but if not, then the child needs the parent as much as the parent needs that child and in keeping them from one another that custodial parent is only hurting their kids.
Now, to address the issue of moving out of state. I too am wanting to move from AR where all that is here is me and daddy, no other family, back to CA where i'm originally from where not only my family live but my fiance also lives out there. NO I WILL NOT be living with him. I have strong convictions about that, and therefore will have my own place to live with my children, but my main goal is to get them closer to some family. They have family out this way on their daddy's side who lives in MO and TX, however they've not seen them in two yrs since he left. When they ask to go with him on holiday's to see them he refuses to let them yet takes his wife and her new children. This is extreemly difficult on them, especially since they have very little contact with him as well, aside from all my talking to him and practically begging him to spend more time with them and get their relationship back on track.
Anyway, I was told i need to drop a line to the court and my ex husband stating what i want to do. Does anyone know where i can find such a letter online that can at least give me some kind of idea of how the letter should go? I will do whatever i can to insure my ex husbands ability to have constant contact with our children. The last thing i want is to keep them from him, but they also need their family. To the man who posted that website address. Where did you originally find that at? I am wanting to do all of this on my own but have not had much luck. My husband told me right infront of the kids that if the judge allows us to move then he is wiping the slate clean with them and will have no further contact what so ever, he has also stated that if i drop the child support he dont' give a flip (nice way of saying it) where we go or what we do, he just wants the child support dropped.
P.S. All of our children want to go home and be closer to family.
Thank you,
Karen in AR