Can I ask for supervised visits because of harassment?

[christydawn]

What is the name of your state? OH

Ok I recently moved to Ohio from Indiana. I haven't gotten an ohio DL yet since I just got here yesterday. I contacted BCSE in IN and told them I was moving and where I was moving to. So they know. Right now my ex pays money to IN BCSE for my son. He's 1 and 1/2 years old.

My sons father's wife has been harassing me on the phone and online. Not threatening. Just harassing me calling me names saying I'm not a good mother. Saying I should have aborted my son because he would be better off w/o me. Saying he's a ba*tard. She said she wished I would die in a car accident and that my son was with me and he would die too. Then she said she wanted me to die in a car accident so they could get custody of my son and put him in foster care so they could be rid of him. She also said that if she didn't already have a kid she would have beat me up last year when she had the chance and put me in the hospital.

My sons father doesn't have any custody rights. The judge said he only can see my son right now if he and I both agree. The judge said it was important to establish visitation. I told her at the support hearing that I did not care if my sons father saw him but he was not to be around his wife due to the harassment she's been giving me. The judge wasn't interested in our personal business. But she did say that they would set up some type of mediation. And that myself and my sons father would have to attend parenting classes on how to not bring my son in the middle of domestic disputes. She said that at first she thinks my sons father should establish a relationship and get to know him first then if we can resolve the conflict with the wife she can be around him.

The judge asked my sons father if he was ok with it and he said no. He said that his wife had good reasons to think I was a bad person and he wasn't going to allow her to be punished and make her out to be a bad person by saying she's unfit to be around my child. So he told the judge that there was no deal. And he's not even open to going to mediation to see my son unless his wife is involved and it is not supervised. He said he would refuse supervised visits.

Can a judge force him to be in my sons life because he would benefit by having his father know him? Even if he does't want to. Because I'm to the point I don't know if I even want him around. He also knows about what his wife has said to me and about me and about my son. He doesn't care. He told me he feels that our son isn't even his. And he will do what the state makes him do which is pay me support but no more than he has to. But he did say that if I decided that I did not want him to have anything to do with my son that he would get a lawyer and seek full custody and get my rights taken away just to hurt me. I was arrested for posession of prescription pain pills that wasn't mine and were in an improper container. I also used to do use drugs recreationally since the birth of my son I stopped. But he's threatened to use that against me. He has pictures of me using drugs and being high before I was pregnant. He said he can use that and my conviction to prove I'm unfit.

I don't know what to do in this situation. First of all can I do anything about the harassment? And now that I'm in another state will my old state handle the custody issues or does my new state of OH handle it since IN is still going to be garnishing my sons fathers paychecks and sending them to here in OH.

[nextwife]

Being high WHILE pregnant is a type of prenatal child abuse. How could you do that to your future child?

At what point in the court process are you in the negotiations for visitation? Moving in the middle (did you get permission of the court to leave jurisdiction?) is not a very good idea.

Why does dad think the child is not his? Didn't you make sure to establish paternity by DNA testing if you were doing drugs at that time and so can't be certain that there were no other partners?

[CJane]

Jurisdiction will almost certainly remain with IN unless and until the father leaves the state.

A judge will NOT force a father to visit. Not gonna happen.

As far as the harassment goes, there's not a lot you can do except don't respond. It's not against the law to be a bitch or say bad things about people.

Did you give proper notice before moving?

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by nextwife

Being high WHILE pregnant is a type of prenatal child abuse. How could you do that to your future child?

At what point in the court process are you in the negotiations for visitation? Moving in the middle (did you get permission of the court to leave jurisdiction?) is not a very good idea.

Why does dad think the child is not his? Didn't you make sure to establish paternity by DNA testing if you were doing drugs at that time and so can't be certain that there were no other partners?

I doubt that she did them while pregnant. Doctor's and hospitals in Indiana tend to test pregnant women for that these days. My daughter was tested at every visit. I was surprized, but she didn't mind.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by christydawn

What is the name of your state? OH
I also used to do use drugs recreationally since the birth of my son I stopped.

Mom herself stated she stopped once her child was BORN.