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Old 04-20-2007, 09:48 AM
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Can I withhold visitation?

What is the name of your state? Florida
My ex is engaged to a person who's daughter is mentally ill and drug addicted and I do not want my daughter exposed to this enviornment. The daughter of the fiance' is actually in a mental facility at this time. I am the custodial parent and want to know if I am allowed to tell him that our daughter is not to spend the night at his house while this person is in his life. He can see her after school, weekends etc., but not for overnights as this is when our daughter has contact with the mentally ill girl.
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Old 04-20-2007, 09:52 AM
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Not unless you can PROVE to the court that this person is a danger to your child. But since she's currently in a facility - she has no contact with your kid anyway. As long as there is an order that he gets visitation, you don't get to decide not to send your daughter. Can you spell "contempt"?
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Old 04-20-2007, 12:39 PM
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Actually you can withhold visitation and dad can take you back for contempt as you have no legal grounds to withhold AND you most likely have a court order granting time that is specifically his.
Unless you cna prove this daughter is a direct and immediate danger to your child you are out of luck in restricting her from being around your child. And even if you did get that restraining order you cannot dictate who dad is married to or lives with. Is this "daughter" an adult?

If you do withhold visitation, watch a court get fed up with you and award dad custody and YOU visitation.
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Old 04-20-2007, 09:24 PM
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My ex is engaged to a person who's daughter is mentally ill and drug addicted and I do not want my daughter exposed to this enviornment.
Too freaking bad. It's not your call. You are not the Judge.
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The daughter of the fiance' is actually in a mental facility at this time.
So what?

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I am the custodial parent
So freaking what. You are not the Judge.

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and want to know if I am allowed to tell him that our daughter is not to spend the night at his house while this person is in his life.
No, Jealous Broad...you're not.

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He can see her after school, weekends etc., but not for overnights as this is when our daughter has contact with the mentally ill girl.
Not your call and you have no right whatsoever. Who the hell do you think you are?

Oh yeah. No one. Especially NOT the judge.

You send the child for parenting time. Or else.
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Old 04-20-2007, 10:44 PM
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What is the name of your state? Florida
My ex is engaged to a person who's daughter is mentally ill and drug addicted and I do not want my daughter exposed to this enviornment. The daughter of the fiance' is actually in a mental facility at this time. I am the custodial parent and want to know if I am allowed to tell him that our daughter is not to spend the night at his house while this person is in his life. He can see her after school, weekends etc., but not for overnights as this is when our daughter has contact with the mentally ill girl.
Many people are mentally ill. Many custodial parents are mentally ill. Many take medications for their illness(es). Apparently this person is being treated for her problems.

What if you had a mentally ill child? Would you give up custody to dad, so that your child is not "subjected" to his/her sibling?
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:11 AM
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What is the name of your state? Florida
My ex is engaged to a person who's daughter is mentally ill and drug addicted and I do not want my daughter exposed to this enviornment. The daughter of the fiance' is actually in a mental facility at this time. I am the custodial parent and want to know if I am allowed to tell him that our daughter is not to spend the night at his house while this person is in his life. He can see her after school, weekends etc., but not for overnights as this is when our daughter has contact with the mentally ill girl.
Unless you can show there is a danger to your child, there is nothing to do.
You cannot hold visits.
If you feel the circumstances are so severe, you can file a motion to modify custody.
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:12 AM
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Many people are mentally ill. Many custodial parents are mentally ill. Many take medications for their illness(es). Apparently this person is being treated for her problems.

What if you had a mentally ill child? Would you give up custody to dad, so that your child is not "subjected" to his/her sibling?
We do not know the severity of the illness.
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:43 AM
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Too freaking bad. It's not your call. You are not the Judge.

So what?


So freaking what. You are not the Judge.


No, Jealous Broad...you're not.


Not your call and you have no right whatsoever. Who the hell do you think you are?

Oh yeah. No one. Especially NOT the judge.

You send the child for parenting time. Or else.
I don't think I've ever read a post from you where you weren't throwing insults all about. Obviously you've got a huge chip on your shoulder. I guess your ex really stuck it to you or at least you feel that way! Seems you feel the need to take your pent up frustrations out on unsuspecting people who are simply looking for a little advice. You are correct that she legally can't make this decision on her own and that she really has no right to. You, however, can't ever keep it simple! No, you've gotta try to demean in the process. She is obviously concerned for the safety of her child and if she wasn't you'd insult her for that as well!!
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Old 04-21-2007, 08:59 AM
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I don't think I've ever read a post from you where you weren't throwing insults all about.
"Ever"? As in, during the <3 weeks you've been registered? IMpressive.
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"Ever"? As in, during the <3 weeks you've been registered? IMpressive.
Yes, I've read through a lot of old threads trying to find the info I've needed. Gosh forbid if I should have a new question only to get stomped for asking!
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Yes, I've read through a lot of old threads trying to find the info I've needed. Gosh forbid if I should have a new question only to get stomped for asking!
Go escape, already.
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:16 PM
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Go escape, already.
Truth hurts doesn't it! Most of you aren't interested in helping others your only on here to as therapy for all the bitterness you harbor! Keep on keeping on! I knew that my insight would be dismissed, but I just couldn't bite my tongue any longer. It is obvious your gang mentality on these boards has the whole group in denial! Enough said, I'm not bitter or bored and do have a real life! I have better ways to spend my Saturday!
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:18 PM
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Yes, I've read through a lot of old threads trying to find the info I've needed. Gosh forbid if I should have a new question only to get stomped for asking!
Sometimes we "stomp" because the question asked, is one that has been answered 20x that DAY! We have a search function that allows a new member to look up the answer to their question, it is a requirement (as stated in the TOS).

Sometimes we "stomp" because the question is just so outrageous! "I don't like the sperm donor of my child! Can I TPR?"

And sometimes we "stomp" because the OP gets pissy when s/he doesn't hear the amswer they like!

When you post to a public forum you will get all kinds of answers...if you don't like it...go to a friggin' attorney and pay for the one you want!
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:22 PM
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Truth hurts doesn't it! Most of you aren't interested in helping others your only on here to as therapy for all the bitterness you harbor! Keep on keeping on! I knew that my insight would be dismissed, but I just couldn't bite my tongue any longer. It is obvious your gang mentality on these boards has the whole group in denial! Enough said, I'm not bitter or bored and do have a real life! I have better ways to spend my Saturday!
I suspect you haven't read my responses.

And while you claim to have a real life and a better way to spend your Saturday, here you are. Interesting dichotomy.
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:21 PM
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What is the name of your state? Florida
My ex is engaged to a person who's daughter is mentally ill and drug addicted and I do not want my daughter exposed to this enviornment. The daughter of the fiance' is actually in a mental facility at this time. I am the custodial parent and want to know if I am allowed to tell him that our daughter is not to spend the night at his house while this person is in his life. He can see her after school, weekends etc., but not for overnights as this is when our daughter has contact with the mentally ill girl.

I am just wondering why the most basic and important question was not asked of OP....
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