I live in washington state.
My husband has physically and mentally abused me for the last two years of our marriage. Although our family and friends know about the abuse I have never brought charges against him because I did not want to sabotage my marriage and pay his legal fees to fight a domestic violence charge. I have also never been hurt to the point where I needed to seek medical attention. The abuse is mostly cohersive, a means of controlling me. (Choking if I don't perform a task or come when I am called, pinning me down if I refuse to listen to his verbal abuse, pushing me down if I seem to be defying him.) Currently my husband is threatening a divorce to try and controll my behavior. He feels a lost of control now because I am finally making just as much money as he is.
He claims that he will use custody of our four month old daughter as a means of making my life "a living hell". He never wanted our daughter and tells me at least once a day how much of a pain in the ass she is and that is why he never wanted kids. I am responsible for 95% of the child care and he will only watch her if there is no other alternative. However, in a divorce he would fight tooth and nail for 50/50 custody.
I want to leave him but I am afraid of losing my daughter half the time. I know he will not provide the love, compassion, and care needed to ensure she grows into a strong and well adjusted individual. Can my husband get custody if we divorce?