I don't want to pay an attorney if I don't need to. My husband has 4 kids from a previous marriage which he adopted one and the youngest was the result of an affair and isn't his however he pays for all of them. If he adopts my kids does domestic relations look at that as a responsability that he must support as well. I don't want anything from him finacially if we get divorced but I know that is one of his fears. He has done this before and as soon as the adoption was legal after years she kicked him out and filed for divorce. So he know must pay for her.