What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
Hi everyone,
Quick back story - The Father and I have no current legal custody agreement in place; we previously wrote out a parenting plan (2012) but never officially filed it. We were never married and the minor child is 5 years old. The verbal agreement we follow was based on the minor child being 18 months old at the time of separation (so more frequent visits with each parent is recommended) and the work schedule of the Father. The Father has now informed me that he has filed official papers for custody due to us having repeated arguements over the time-share schedule. Here is the current schedule:
Monday - Mom
Tuesday - Dad
Wednesday - Mom
Thursday - Dad
Friday - Mom
Saturday - Drop off at Dad's at 5 PM
Sunday - Drop off to Mom's
I have asked multiple times for consideration in changing the agreement to something that would allow the minor child to have more time in each home. A 2-2-3 schedule or a weekly switch schedule or really ANYTHING that allows for at least 2 days in a row in each home. He refuses and is absolutely stuck on keeping this schedule until the minor is 18. What I have tried to get him to understand is that it has become and will continue to be more of an burden to the minor child with having to switch around so much. As it is, we plan our weekends according to this crazy 5 PM drop-off/pick-up and my main concern is that when she starts Elementary School this year (and all the years of schooling ahead), this flip-flop of days will just make things more difficult. His reasoning for refusing to change the schedule is that any other schedule work cause conflict with his work schedule. He is a bartender for a local dive bar and work nights (Wed,Fri,Sun). My question would be, how likely is the judge to consider keeping this schedule when it is only based on the Father's job? What is the best way for me to convey to the courts the need to change this schedule? Is it worth mentioning that he shares a 1 bedroom apt. with the minor and she has her own room at my house...am I suppose to try and represent myself as the "better parent"?
I do not want to take time from him and I am fully agreeable to a 50/50 split or taking more time if that is what is needed....I just do not want to get stuck in this crazy schedule! I have no experience personally with the legal system so I really appreciate any advice.
Hi everyone,
Quick back story - The Father and I have no current legal custody agreement in place; we previously wrote out a parenting plan (2012) but never officially filed it. We were never married and the minor child is 5 years old. The verbal agreement we follow was based on the minor child being 18 months old at the time of separation (so more frequent visits with each parent is recommended) and the work schedule of the Father. The Father has now informed me that he has filed official papers for custody due to us having repeated arguements over the time-share schedule. Here is the current schedule:
Monday - Mom
Tuesday - Dad
Wednesday - Mom
Thursday - Dad
Friday - Mom
Saturday - Drop off at Dad's at 5 PM
Sunday - Drop off to Mom's
I have asked multiple times for consideration in changing the agreement to something that would allow the minor child to have more time in each home. A 2-2-3 schedule or a weekly switch schedule or really ANYTHING that allows for at least 2 days in a row in each home. He refuses and is absolutely stuck on keeping this schedule until the minor is 18. What I have tried to get him to understand is that it has become and will continue to be more of an burden to the minor child with having to switch around so much. As it is, we plan our weekends according to this crazy 5 PM drop-off/pick-up and my main concern is that when she starts Elementary School this year (and all the years of schooling ahead), this flip-flop of days will just make things more difficult. His reasoning for refusing to change the schedule is that any other schedule work cause conflict with his work schedule. He is a bartender for a local dive bar and work nights (Wed,Fri,Sun). My question would be, how likely is the judge to consider keeping this schedule when it is only based on the Father's job? What is the best way for me to convey to the courts the need to change this schedule? Is it worth mentioning that he shares a 1 bedroom apt. with the minor and she has her own room at my house...am I suppose to try and represent myself as the "better parent"?
I do not want to take time from him and I am fully agreeable to a 50/50 split or taking more time if that is what is needed....I just do not want to get stuck in this crazy schedule! I have no experience personally with the legal system so I really appreciate any advice.