CJane
Senior Member
The changes in my children's lives are actually due to their father's abandonment of them. Had he not walked away from them almost 3 years ago, and made no effort at contact for the interim, I never would have moved them away. But since he did, we'd stopped seeing any reason to stay in the area. My husband could just as easily have retired in Kansas instead of Washington, had things been different.And CJ? Look at the changes you have made in your childrens lives due to the "new man".
And you don't see me in court complaining about not having time I didn't want anyway.
My husband's ex will be moving out here at the end of this summer. I'm certain she'll want more time than is currently granted to her in the cross country parenting plan that's in effect now. But it will be on her to be reasonable about it. The kids aren't going to have their lives completely upset just because she decided to make changes to her life and move here. The parenting plan will change, out of necessity. But it will be on her to ask for/file for the modifications, because she's the one that moved away and only had visits a few times a year for the past couple years.
Same deal with this poster. Dad agreed to the holiday schedule. He regrets that now. But that's not Mom's fault, or the child's fault. So Dad should bear the brunt of the consequences of the changes - including the costs of court and the very real possibility that he's not going to get what he's asking for.