Last edited by kdube1977; 05-15-2010 at 01:17 PM.
Information you're not likely to know:
1) has 'dad' been adjudicated as such?
2) were they married?
3) how does your 'friend' know that daughter is unattended?
4) is there a visitation order?
The best thing your friend could do is post here herself. She's going to have far more knowledge of what's happening, the history, etc than you are.
But in general? My 4 year old occasionally plays outside with no one but the dog to supervise him while I get stuff done inside or in another part of the yard.
Should I Ask: The father was there at child birth is on the birth certificate. They were never married. Her daughter has told her on two separate occasions that there is no adult just her and her 10 year old sister. And no there is no visitation order.
CJane: I would never let my 4 year old walk to a store down the street with a 10 year old. Sorry guess Im a little over-protective in this world. A dog in the yard with him maybe but not if I were in a bad section of town. And she is always calling me for advice so I do know most of the situation. My friend is scared to do anything with the law ie child support hearings etc. that dad will try to get custody cause he has more money than her. She would never post something for advice.
Just so you guys are aware we have been friends for 25 years so we know quite a bit about each others personal lives.
I'm sorry, but my absolutely BEST FRIEND IN THIS WHOLE WORLD has known me for 25 years and she will tell you herself, while she knows a lot, she doesn't know EVERYTHING.
My parents have known me all my life and don't know everything. Therefore, knowing her for infinity knows nothing.
If she asks you for advice, give her the website address or advise her to seek out the advice of someone who is knowledgable in the field.
If he averages $13/wk in CS, without a court order, he's paying $13/wk more than he has to. I
I used to let my 4 year old out all the time by himself. I've let my 4 year old to go the park with him 11 year old cousin all the time. You don't get a say in what's right or not with HIS child.
I completely understand not wanting a child (especially a 4 year old) outside alone or just with other children or a dog. Although if in a fenced in yard or being watched form another area of the yard, that should be ok.
In the world we live in there is nothing wrong with being protective. There are too many sick people who would take a child that is unsupervised or careless drivers that wouldnt watch for a child wandering in the road.
Who told your friend she didnt have sole custody? The custody thing would be determined by the courts.
In her situation it would be hard to say what can be done if there is no court order saying who can have the child and when.
Im so sorry, I dont recall saying I know everything about my friend's situation i believe I said something to the effect we know quite a bit about each other. And I also dont think I asked anything about the amount of CS paid v. if that is a correct amount. I think what I originally asked was if she is considered to have sole custody. It doesn't matter what I think about the daughter going on her own It's how her mother feels and she can't stand it and has expressed this to him. I have told her to get legal advice but you must have missed that part of she is scared to take any legal action. Thank you emmagirl.
I thought this was a free advice site not an opinion site. i will be withdrawing my questions.
YOU brought up the child support. YOU brought up the 'neglectful' nature of the child being left outside without supervision. YOU asked the questions. WE advised that SHE should come ask her own questions because court order details are NEEDED in order for anyone to answer ANY questions with any accuracy.
Oh BTW.... I don't know what you're thanking emmagirl for, her answer wasn't accurate by the information YOU'VE provided.
If she's scared to go to court then she will get nothing established legally. She needs to get over that fear.