You cant "will" your child to someone else....
and if you research the Q and A list, you will see hundreds of responses to this question on this site.
That being said, in reality, you chose this man to father this child, and you can't go back and decide in the future, if something happens to you, it was not a good choice. This is just the reality of the situation. You are going to have to deal with dad for at least the next 17+ years--saying you're going to give this child to someone else (which wont happen, at least not right at this moment, should something happen to you), is not the way to effectively co-parent. Perhaps you can communicate and work with dad to help him care for the child? NOT controlling the parenting he does, but offer suggestions?
As for daycares, many married/families that are together use them-this is not a reason to think he is a bad parent. Someone has to work, someone has to pay the bills....might I ask how you are providing for this child? How are you able to stay and be with your child at this time? Just asking....and leading up to the fact that one day, you might be using daycare. Would you understand if dad attacked your parenting skills based on this?
JMO and thoughts.....