What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I am an unmarried woman with a 17 month daughter with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. My boyfriend/the father is a stay at home dad, and I am the sole bread winner that supports both my child and the father, paying all bills, housing, health insurance, etc... I am extremely unhappy in this relationship and would like to leave. However the thought of potentially not seeing my daughter kills me. I've repeatedly asked for him to get a job, as my parents live 5 minutes away from us and would watch her three days a week as well as I can afford day care at a facility I've already investigated, the other 2 days a week.
My questions is, what is the chances of me losing custody of my daughter? Also, is there any chance that I would have to pay him any sort of 'palimony' even there is no document/anything that legally binds us.
I'm not looking to take her away from him. I want to share her with him as much as possible and have already written out a potential child-care plan. However, ideally I would like to seek sole physical custody with lots of visitation, but joint legal custody; again with sharing as much as possible.
Also, I have a DUI from 2006 which I'm afraid is going to bite me. No history of substance abuse, however this is on my record. I've completed the program and have no further incidences. This was also, well before my daughter was born. I can have letters of reference from people showing upstanding character and no drinking anymore if necessary.
Please let me know what other details are needed as I greatly appreciate the help.