child doesn't want to visit mother

[Roxane]

My stepdaughter does not want to see her "real mom" on the weekends (every other). She recently asked me if she has to go to the visitations. I'm not sure what to tell her. She's thirteen and has a sister who's fourteen. Her sister loves visiting her "real mom". What can I tell her--are the visitations to be forced if she doesn't want to go?

[Ambr]

you (and the father) are responsible with nuturing the relationship between the mother and the child. you should do everything to encourage the time she spends with her mom.

have you talked with her? what is her reasoning for not wanting to visit? what's changed that makes her not want to go? or is she just to involved with other activities and not wanting to be pulled away?

of course, she is reaching the age that you can't really do anything about "making" her go.

[SteveM]

I also would like to know the answer to this question seeing that the mother of my daughter is doing the PAS route already. What happens when the child is 3 and mom gets her to say "I dont want to go with daddy today" does she have to come with me? Do I just lose out on the visitation or is there a certain age where the child has to do come with me for visits??? Like they cant chose weather or not to go until age 16 or what?