gammyismyname
Junior Member
You need to tell the truth then. Because what you stated was:
Well that was NOT true. Because a court was involved if a judge signed an order. You also stated you only had PLACEMENT due to a safety plan. PLACEMENT is not custody. That matter IS under dispute because you apparently are clueless as to the actual facts. If you only have placement then the mother is the child's custodian. If you have custody then a COURT had to have been involved contrary to what you first stated.
Based on your ignorance and inability to comprehend and convey truthfully what has happened, you need an attorney. End of story.
ok, once i went thru your post, removed the unprofessional and rude comments, there are sensible statements in what you said and I can see how my posts were confusing. However, I DID tell the truth. We never went to court, child was placed with us vis parental consent, a safety plan was written and signed into effect by a judge. The child is placed with me, according to the documents that I have that are signed by both parents, the DSS caseworker, the DSS caseworkers supervisor and a judge. We never went to the court room. The consent order states that I have physical custody, and authority to attend to the medical needs of the child. The parents are to have supervised visitation only, and at my discretion.
When all of this was "going down", the caseworker herself told me that since both parents would be willing to consent, there was no need to go to court. The lawyers would go over the consent with the parents, and the judge would sign it into effect. From what I understand, my son lost access to his lawyer once he was cleared from the investigation.
You are arguing semantics. We never went to a court room, but the paperwork was signed by a judge as a consent order. LEGAL custody remains with the mother, yes, however, I have physical custody, and certain legal custodial rights at this point. NO, I am not clueless to the facts, I am unclear on what is going to occur in the next couple weeks and seeking input here.
Yes, I am aware that I need an attorney. I also need the money to pay for one. I have neither. I am doing what I can here, it may not be much, but it's the best that I can do right now.
I have browsed the forum and I do see that you are a valued family law attorney. I hope that you don't resort to name calling to paying clients. While I do admit to not communicating my statements clearly, there was no need to resort to that. A simple "you are not making sense" would have been sufficient.
I hope that my clarification makes enough sense that you can answer my questions:
What options does DSS have? My son and the mother were never married, but paternity has been legally established (birth certificate and affidavit of paternity). However, until my son is able to seek counsel to gain custody (don't even know who we take custody from at this point), where does my grandchild belong? I am hoping that she will remain "placed" with me.
Can DSS just close a case without proper placement/custody? In the event of two unwed parents, when DSS decides that one parent is unable to have custody, arent they supposed to seek custodial arrangements in court? Can they just leave my grandchild placed in my home and in limbo?