What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Live in NC case was in NJ
I know this isn't a forum to complain but I need to know what to do next time.
Ex wife keeps me in court in wrong places and some Judges scold her several times others hear the case. My ex has given up her parental rights a few years back, we hadn't heard from here in years, she owed $20,000.00 plus in CS. And she had been in jail. This case was legally moved out of NJ about 6-7 years ago to NC. Had attorneys do the work, NP. When the PR were terminated I said I wanted nothing but back CS well the judge said even though her PR were severed she still has the obligation to support them I didn't care.
My problem is she CONTINUES to file papers in court in NJ. The first time I got a lawyer and the Judge scolded her and said Miss _________ you have no parental rights, your in the wrong court and he told her unless there was a procedural error even the other state wouldn't be able to help her and told her to get an attorney in NC. In ct less then 2 minutes and my attorney charged $600.00 my problem I know. She walked out and filed the same paper work in the same court, that never went anyplace as the same judge seen it. She walked out and filed the same paper work again in the same court. This time she kept changing things til she got the most liberal judge probably in the state. I was never even told of the court date and Judge being changed until the day before, I live 700 miles away. My attorney now being tired of her and the fact I owe him 600.00 or so told me you go in front of the judge show him the previous orders saying she was in the wrong court/state and the order showing her P.R. were terminated and some law code about the case being in NC and NJ not having jurisdiction.
Well we did this over the phone because the judge wouldn't change the date and I didn't have time to get there. The ex lied about everything he asked her from being notified of court dates about the P.R. termination hearing to saying she had affidavits from my family saying I wouldn't allow the kids to see her or my family all lies. This judge cut her arrears by 3,000.00 because he felt she was paying to much, cut down the arrears payment from 100 per week to 17. It'll take her like 20 years to pay that off plus what's still accruing.
He then asked me if I had anything to add and I did exactly what my attorney said, explained she was in the wrong state, he said I'll hear anything I want to in my court, I then explained she was served with the P.R. termination papers he said well not in my court, he had the prove that she was served in a jail on NJ by the sheriff.
This judge then starts to ask me personal questions and I did get a little mad but kept cool. I am disabled and he asked why, how long, what were my illness, things my ex. doesn't need to know about my illness', when was my last eval. Then asked questions about my disability hearing 6 years earlier and I said nicely sir I had an attorney for this and don't know the answers to your questions and don't think it's any of the court business. Wrong thing to say.
Well he lowered all her payments even though her and her husbands income in three times mine and they have no liabilities. She was told for the third time now buy a second judge to file any more motions in NC not NJ.
Well she has now filed again for visitation in the same court, she has no parental rights.
What can I do other then go up there again in front of the same judge.
I am 20 thousand in debt from lawyers and if I do this my self again I will be hammered. She now knows how to change judges to her liking and I don't even find out until the day before from 700 hundred miles away.
The attorney in NJ says he can appeal but wants the 600 I owe and a 5,000.00 retainer.
The attorney in NC says just ignore the court dates and orders until she comes down her as long as you don't ever plan on going back to NJ.
Any suggestions please. The stress and debt is killing me. Literally.
Also I am now up for review with SS because he and my ex. think I could work, how can he dabble into SS which he has no control over.
I know this isn't a forum to complain but I need to know what to do next time.
Ex wife keeps me in court in wrong places and some Judges scold her several times others hear the case. My ex has given up her parental rights a few years back, we hadn't heard from here in years, she owed $20,000.00 plus in CS. And she had been in jail. This case was legally moved out of NJ about 6-7 years ago to NC. Had attorneys do the work, NP. When the PR were terminated I said I wanted nothing but back CS well the judge said even though her PR were severed she still has the obligation to support them I didn't care.
My problem is she CONTINUES to file papers in court in NJ. The first time I got a lawyer and the Judge scolded her and said Miss _________ you have no parental rights, your in the wrong court and he told her unless there was a procedural error even the other state wouldn't be able to help her and told her to get an attorney in NC. In ct less then 2 minutes and my attorney charged $600.00 my problem I know. She walked out and filed the same paper work in the same court, that never went anyplace as the same judge seen it. She walked out and filed the same paper work again in the same court. This time she kept changing things til she got the most liberal judge probably in the state. I was never even told of the court date and Judge being changed until the day before, I live 700 miles away. My attorney now being tired of her and the fact I owe him 600.00 or so told me you go in front of the judge show him the previous orders saying she was in the wrong court/state and the order showing her P.R. were terminated and some law code about the case being in NC and NJ not having jurisdiction.
Well we did this over the phone because the judge wouldn't change the date and I didn't have time to get there. The ex lied about everything he asked her from being notified of court dates about the P.R. termination hearing to saying she had affidavits from my family saying I wouldn't allow the kids to see her or my family all lies. This judge cut her arrears by 3,000.00 because he felt she was paying to much, cut down the arrears payment from 100 per week to 17. It'll take her like 20 years to pay that off plus what's still accruing.
He then asked me if I had anything to add and I did exactly what my attorney said, explained she was in the wrong state, he said I'll hear anything I want to in my court, I then explained she was served with the P.R. termination papers he said well not in my court, he had the prove that she was served in a jail on NJ by the sheriff.
This judge then starts to ask me personal questions and I did get a little mad but kept cool. I am disabled and he asked why, how long, what were my illness, things my ex. doesn't need to know about my illness', when was my last eval. Then asked questions about my disability hearing 6 years earlier and I said nicely sir I had an attorney for this and don't know the answers to your questions and don't think it's any of the court business. Wrong thing to say.
Well he lowered all her payments even though her and her husbands income in three times mine and they have no liabilities. She was told for the third time now buy a second judge to file any more motions in NC not NJ.
Well she has now filed again for visitation in the same court, she has no parental rights.
What can I do other then go up there again in front of the same judge.
I am 20 thousand in debt from lawyers and if I do this my self again I will be hammered. She now knows how to change judges to her liking and I don't even find out until the day before from 700 hundred miles away.
The attorney in NJ says he can appeal but wants the 600 I owe and a 5,000.00 retainer.
The attorney in NC says just ignore the court dates and orders until she comes down her as long as you don't ever plan on going back to NJ.
Any suggestions please. The stress and debt is killing me. Literally.
Also I am now up for review with SS because he and my ex. think I could work, how can he dabble into SS which he has no control over.
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