What is the name of your state? Indiana
My husbands ex-wife has been hospitalized for over a month and suffering from terminal cancer for over a year. During this time she has failed to notify us when she was absent from the home and the children 15 and 18 were left alone in a horrid area with no money, food, supervision or transportation for the yongest boy. This last time they were told to go to my husbands parents at 9 o'clock at night after she was admitted and had been in the hospital for two days. They aked his parents if they could stay a few days which quickly turned into three weeks before we insisted the youngest boy move to our home 50 miles notrth of where they had lived.
He was forced to leave his school the last two week of the year since she refused to place any one in the home so he could finsih the school year. My husbands parents are elderly and could not continue to allow the boys to live there. My question is this...the 15 year old is now beginning to thrive, being enrolled in drivers education and accepting of the fact he will be living here and that his mother is dying. We make sure he vistis with her regularly and she and her family continue to tell him that if she is realeased he will come back to live with then in a different town. She is on morphine, unable to walk, drive work or provide for his care. Can we keep him with us without a court order since she is not the one who would be caring for him if he is retruned. She doesn't have long to live and refuses to acknowldedge that which has my step son very frustrated and angry with her. Further more she has not paid abatements, provided no money to the children. He arrived in ur home with three pieces of clothing to his name. His school was unaware of the situation and he is now telling us that she threatened him against telling us when she was hospitalized and became bedridden. This last hospitalization (with no end in sight) began the day before we were leaving town and she forbid them to notify my husband. If they had we would have been here and there would have been no question of where to go when they found themselves unable to return home.
The 18 year old is graduating in on week, rebellious and refuses to engage in a meaningful relationship with us. This is a result of her practining parent alientation, lying about us and then finally admitting none of it was true but if he came to us it would mean he doesn't love her.
Again, if she is moved into the home of a family member so she can be cared for are we required to return the youngest boy, or under the parenting guideline do we have the right to determine what is best since she is unable to. Help!