momto2teens
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What is the name of your state? Indiana
I'll try to make this short. Just want to see if I have a fighting chance to save my 16yo (they don't care about the 18yo).
I am mom and have joint custody with visitation. Dad gained primary physical custody 1 1/2 yrs ago after re-marrying and the children wanting to "try out living with dad". I agreed without any fight, I felt at their age they deserved the chance to live full time with their dad if they wanted to. Children are 16 & 18 now.
After signing the court order, my husband & I moved to MS for husbands employment. We have been in constant contact with the children and there have been visits back and forth.
Get a call on 12/26/07 from children. They have run away. Stepmom said she "hates them" and calls them names. Lots of other things...they are miserable. 18yo has never moved back into the home since (I am paying for her to live at boyfriends parents house and bought her a car so she could go to school/work since they took hers away). 16yo had to move back and has since been taken to the ER & to psych and put on antipsych meds for anger problems. Psych will not return my phone calls, even though I produced (faxed) court orders proving legal custody. She put them in family counseling.
There has only been 1 phone call in 1.5 years from dad to me (demanding that I pay for school tuition that I was not ordered to pay), yet there have been multiple medical emergencies that I was not made aware of until it was too late and that info came from the children themselves.
I finally get a phone call from Dad (1/28/08) after 16yo tells him that he does not want to live with him. Dad tells me that I have ABANDONED the children, I have no say in anything they do and that he is the SOLE GUARDIAN. He continues by informing me that I am a cocaine addict, an alcoholic, bi-polar and a piece of sh*t! Dad then rushes 16yo to the emergency room claiming that he is obviously having a mental break down and anger issues. Of course, I was never notified of the ER visit. My children informed me.
I have too many questions for one thread! Sorry.
I have no experience in court proceedings. Everything has been very quiet since the very beginning and until Dad got remarried, parenting was pretty smooth & children were happy. Mom & Dad talked regularly & visitation was give and take- no probs. Now all Dad says to the children is, "Mom just wants money".
How is all of this mess going to look to the judge? I have never even had a speeding ticket! I'm not perfect by any means, but I'm not what he says I am. Both children want to move in with me. We will relocate to Indiana and my husband will quit his job. What about the move to MS after the custody change, does that equal abandonment? What about the legal custody? I don't seem to have any custody rights at all right now. I have never been so stressed out in my entire life! Hearing is next week and their continuance was denied. We have an attorney, but not endless amount of funds. This is happening so fast and I am really scared.
Any insights?
Thank you What is the name of your state? Indiana
I'll try to make this short. Just want to see if I have a fighting chance to save my 16yo (they don't care about the 18yo).
I am mom and have joint custody with visitation. Dad gained primary physical custody 1 1/2 yrs ago after re-marrying and the children wanting to "try out living with dad". I agreed without any fight, I felt at their age they deserved the chance to live full time with their dad if they wanted to. Children are 16 & 18 now.
After signing the court order, my husband & I moved to MS for husbands employment. We have been in constant contact with the children and there have been visits back and forth.
Get a call on 12/26/07 from children. They have run away. Stepmom said she "hates them" and calls them names. Lots of other things...they are miserable. 18yo has never moved back into the home since (I am paying for her to live at boyfriends parents house and bought her a car so she could go to school/work since they took hers away). 16yo had to move back and has since been taken to the ER & to psych and put on antipsych meds for anger problems. Psych will not return my phone calls, even though I produced (faxed) court orders proving legal custody. She put them in family counseling.
There has only been 1 phone call in 1.5 years from dad to me (demanding that I pay for school tuition that I was not ordered to pay), yet there have been multiple medical emergencies that I was not made aware of until it was too late and that info came from the children themselves.
I finally get a phone call from Dad (1/28/08) after 16yo tells him that he does not want to live with him. Dad tells me that I have ABANDONED the children, I have no say in anything they do and that he is the SOLE GUARDIAN. He continues by informing me that I am a cocaine addict, an alcoholic, bi-polar and a piece of sh*t! Dad then rushes 16yo to the emergency room claiming that he is obviously having a mental break down and anger issues. Of course, I was never notified of the ER visit. My children informed me.
I have too many questions for one thread! Sorry.
I have no experience in court proceedings. Everything has been very quiet since the very beginning and until Dad got remarried, parenting was pretty smooth & children were happy. Mom & Dad talked regularly & visitation was give and take- no probs. Now all Dad says to the children is, "Mom just wants money".
How is all of this mess going to look to the judge? I have never even had a speeding ticket! I'm not perfect by any means, but I'm not what he says I am. Both children want to move in with me. We will relocate to Indiana and my husband will quit his job. What about the move to MS after the custody change, does that equal abandonment? What about the legal custody? I don't seem to have any custody rights at all right now. I have never been so stressed out in my entire life! Hearing is next week and their continuance was denied. We have an attorney, but not endless amount of funds. This is happening so fast and I am really scared.
Any insights?
Thank you What is the name of your state? Indiana