It was not a rant and I myself have been diagnosed with Panic Disorder and Major Recurrent Depression... and as somebody else stated, a person with Borderline Personality Disorder rarely seeks treatment, as part of the illness is that usually people with that illness rarely think they have a problem. It's "usually everybody elses problem, not mine." Histrionic disorder is a common symptom of BPD. Look it up if you don't think I'm speaking the facts. I'm not stygmatyzing anybody. I deal with those stigmas on a regular basis, though I accept my illness and have been under the same doctor's care for over 5 years. The bottom line is that somebody needs to be willing to accept and want help and 99% of the time, these people do not believe there is a problem or a need help.
He was just recently hospitalized because he had taken Xanax and alcohol. He was not on a 72 hour hold as he stated he was not suicidal and he admitted himself. He broke out of the hospital, though they thought alcohol and drug treatment was necessary. He comes from an affluent family that usually sweeps things under the rug, though it appears his family has finally seen the light. They have cut him off until he receives some type of help, but as I stated above, him reaching out for help and accepting treatment is very unlikely.
I find no joy or thrill whatsoever in the fact that their Dad is struggling, though he has used my problems in the past to throw in my face, gossip, and use me as a skapegoat for his stuff. This is my children's father and I know that any difficulties he is facing affects my children. Besides the fact that having once been "there" myself, I wouldn't wish or want that upon anybody. My 16 year old said that right before she left Louisiana, she saw her Dad walking on the street barefoot, drinking a beer at about 11 am. This is a Tulane educated man and inspite of all our personal differences, I find this very sad and heartbreaking.
So bottom line is that I'm going to do all I can do to make my girls feel safe, secure, and loved here. I am getting them counseling. As somebody else pointed out, once he realizes that he is going to lost their SSDI dependant pay, plus have to pay child support on top, I'm sure that will affect his thinking on wanting the girls here. He and his wife have already moved her 32 year old developmentally delayed brother (he has the IQ and coping skills of a 10 year old, into the girls old bedroom. He's a prince! Yes, I married him and I take responsibility for that decision, but thankfully, I made the decision to leave and now, as things stand now, my girls have a chance at having a safe, loving, nurturing home.
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I find no joy or thrill in my Ex's downfall. However, he has had all these symptoms for more years than I can count and although his affluent family swept these things (along with cocaine addiction) under the rug for many years, they have finally seen the light and have basically cut hiim off until he is willing to recognize that he needs help. When he was admitted a few weeks ago for an OD of Xanax and alcohol, he broke out of the hospital. (He admitted himself because he was scared, so he was not in a lock down ward on a 72 hour hold).